Long time lurker first time poster. My gf and I are both in university in the USA. She’s Vietnamese-American and I’m French. We met in an ESL meet up (English as a second language, my first language is French, her first language is English but she wanted to meet more bilingual people as she’s learning Vietnamese). Our relationship was pretty good at first because we have a lot of things in common (though she gets annoyed at me for a lot of things like how I have to always stop and laugh whenever I see a cat on a leash but I think maybe I am just a little annoying).
Anyway this issue came up when I asked if she wanted to meet my family. Her family loves me and has me over for holidays but my family is homophobic so I haven’t been sure I feel comfortable introducing her to them (we are lesbian). My family has said that they are trying very hard to be understanding because I seem happy with her and they want me to be happy. She said she understands that they are all old fashioned and would like to meet them.
The issue came when I said that they would be speaking French. I never speak French with my gf because she doesn’t know any French and I’m trying to get better with English, but my family speaks mostly in French. I told her I will ask them to speak in English but that the few French things they say I can translate. She said she finds French “disgusting” and that it is a “white supremacist language” and that the French colonized Vietnam so she refuses to be near anyone speaking the language. This was disappointing to me because I was hoping that one day we might go to France and see where I grew up and we had been talking about having bilingual children. She said “obviously” our children would be bilingual in English and Vietnamese and I said I didn’t think that was obvious since neither of us know Vietnamese. She stormed out of our apartment and went home to her parents’ house. She says I must either promise to never speak French near her or we can break up. I love her but French is my native tongue. Our friends think I am being cruel because I don’t want to give up French and they say I am disrespecting her trauma (her great-grandmother was from Vietnam). I fear maybe I am doing the wrong thing standing by my language but I don’t know.
Am I the asshole if I continue to speak French when it may mean the end of my relationship?
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Long time lurker first time poster. My gf and I are both in university in the USA. She’s Vietnamese-American and I’m French. We met in an ESL meet up (English as a second language, my first language is French, her first language is English but she wanted to meet more bilingual people as she’s learning Vietnamese). Our relationship was pretty good at first because we have a lot of things in common (though she gets annoyed at me for a lot of things like how I have to always stop and laugh whenever I see a cat on a leash but I think maybe I am just a little annoying).
Anyway this issue came up when I asked if she wanted to meet my family. Her family loves me and has me over for holidays but my family is homophobic so I haven’t been sure I feel comfortable introducing her to them (we are lesbian). My family has said that they are trying very hard to be understanding because I seem happy with her and they want me to be happy. She said she understands that they are all old fashioned and would like to meet them.
The issue came when I said that they would be speaking French. I never speak French with my gf because she doesn’t know any French and I’m trying to get better with English, but my family speaks mostly in French. I told her I will ask them to speak in English but that the few French things they say I can translate. She said she finds French “disgusting” and that it is a “white supremacist language” and that the French colonized Vietnam so she refuses to be near anyone speaking the language. This was disappointing to me because I was hoping that one day we might go to France and see where I grew up and we had been talking about having bilingual children. She said “obviously” our children would be bilingual in English and Vietnamese and I said I didn’t think that was obvious since neither of us know Vietnamese. She stormed out of our apartment and went home to her parents’ house. She says I must either promise to never speak French near her or we can break up. I love her but French is my native tongue. Our friends think I am being cruel because I don’t want to give up French and they say I am disrespecting her trauma (her great-grandmother was from Vietnam). I fear maybe I am doing the wrong thing standing by my language but I don’t know.
Am I the asshole if I continue to speak French when it may mean the end of my relationship?
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This is an insane question! Of course you are NTA. If she really feels that way, she should have never dated a french speaker.
And, surprise, English is also a “white supremacist language” and the English and American’s have done more oppression than the French. And don’t get me started on Spanish!
She hates something that is fundamental about you. You need to end this now.
NTA – but… YWBTA staying with that person. She’s unhinged. Colonization was in mid/late-1800s, and yeah, shit happened, but it’s long gone. Sure, never forget, but holding a grudge, no, a ridiculously hateful stance on a language…. that YOU speak natively??? How are you tolerating that sort of hate? I’m french Canadian, and the thought of trying to be in a relationship with a girl that deeply despises my native language is an instant “mange d’la marde, té folle”.
You do you, but, your relationship has zero chance of surviving. “your friends” are her friends, not yours. They will never really respect you. Have a bit of common sense and hit the eject button ASAP, mon chum.
NTA
There are so many red flags here, I don’t even know where to start.
Calling an entire language disgusting and white supremacist is exactly what you’d call pure racism. Expecting you (and your future children) to abandon your native language just to satisfy her bias is hypocritical and wild.
You shouldn’t have to give up your native tongue. If she can’t accept the culture and language you grew up with, the relationship has nowhere healthy to go.
NTA. You are literally French. Does this mean she thinks you’re a colonizer? Why is she dating a French person if she believes that?
Get out now before this person wrecks your life trying to overcompensate and deal (badly) with her own identity issues
c’est un truc de malade, je comprends le trauma generationel de “on déteste la france parce qu’ils nous ont colonisés” mais compromettre sa relation amoureuse avec, c’est insane. surtout qu’elle était au courant de ta nationalité à la base… alors pourquoi le transformer en dealbreaker maintenant? et pourquoi tenir rigueur au petit peuple des actes commis par l’état alors qu’étant née bien des années après, tu peux rien n’y faire (ni ta famille)?
Jesus, you are nowhere near the asshole in this. She is genuinely unhinged, prejudiced, and disgusting for this. If my native language was French and she said that to me, it’s over, we’re done.
What the actual fuck. She’s literally denying WHO YOU ARE. Girl bye
Goes to a bilingual meeting.
Becomes offended when people speak other languages.
What if somebody has the audacity to speak German, Dutch, Spanish, Portuguese, Japanese or ESPECIALLY English, the ultimate white colonizer language, at such meetings? 😮
NTA 100%
This is very baffling, because she basically told you that she associates you with “disgusting” and “white supremacy”, and I wonder what else – obviously this is not about only the language, it is the entirety of your origin.
And I acknowledge where her disgust of the French language comes from – BUT then why is she with you?? a French person!
I am sorry to say, but this relationship has no (healthy) future. She is basically asking you to give up a big part of who you are, including your family “if they speak French”, not visiting your country and future kids not having a French side? this is BS.
And even with all this aside, kinda red flags that she gets annoyed at you for so many things, even random as the cat with leash thing. So you are already believing you are annoying?.. and it’s only been a year together. So by when does she expect you will be completely erased?
Also, get new friends. Anyone that said to you that you are cruel for not forgetting your mother tongue because of disrespect for her trauma is unhinged.
NTA of course. If she hates the language so much she shouldn’t be dating a French person. And maybe she shouldn’t be all too keen on English/the US either then.
NTA and when you said “how will that happen if neither of us speak Vietnamese” that pretty funny
tell her ĐU MÁ ĐI CHẾT ĐI
Whereas English has never been spoken by any colonizers 😂😂😂.
Break up. You don’t need that kind of weird philosophy hanging over your kids (who would obviously be French which she is apparently bigoted against)
Sounds like a major red flag.
If she has a problem with your family and your heritage and your culture and your language how exactly will you build a future with this person?
Might be better to end it now before things get too messy.
>she finds French “disgusting” and that it is a “white supremacist language”
So the language is terrible but French people are fine? I find that very odd….. ask her honestly about how she feels about French people in general and whether or not she’d ever consider having regular close contact or living with French relatives or friends. You may find
>she finds the French “disgusting” and that they are “white supremacists
But not you obviously. You’re not really “one of them”
Damn your gf is a full blown racist. Sorry you have to live with such a child.
NTA- you are French. Your family is French. She can’t just gloss over that and pretend everything about you before her doesn’t exist.
Yes, colonizers did terrible things- but the irony is the Americans also committed horrific atrocities in Vietnam yet she is American and speaks English. She can’t pick and choose who she hates. Well, unless she just wants to be a hypocritical idiot.
This doesn’t sound like a relationship with a healthy future.
Her reaction is very over the top. A lot of European countries colonized a lot of Asian and African countries. Most people don’t automatically refuse to speak that language, indeed it is quite often still spoken in those countries that were colonized.
Your language is a part of your identity, not just as an actual language, but it shapes the way you think, your humor, etc.
Totally giving up your language is like giving up on a part of you. I think her asking this is totally unreasonable.
NTA
Is she aware that her first language (English) is that of an even more prolific colonizer?
I get there is some associative generational trauma here but we live in a post colonial world. You are not the oppressor, neither are millions of other French speaking people. This is an immature viewpoint that lacks nuance and understanding.
This seems weirdly fetish-y. Like, I feel that going to ESL classes is kind of inappropriate because that’s not what they are meant for.
She should be going to Vietnamese classes. Or post on local social media and find people who might want to meet up and speak to her in Vietnamese and English to help both.
Wait, she speaks English, but went to an English as a Second Language course, to meet people who don’t speak English?
Surely there are easier, less time wasting ways?
Like, the course won’t teach her Vietnamese and there was no guarantee that someone from Vietnam would be there.
Was she desperate for a girlfriend that would need her more than an English speaker?
This is some serious immaturity and a giant red flag. NTA and if she’s serious about that ultimatum I’d take the breakup, and honestly even if she wasn’t serious about it I still would probably break up
Not the Asshole. You should break up. You’ll find someone who ACTUALLY loves you and doesn’t ask you to give up a HUGE chuck of your identity for them. She wants to act like Family Trauma is her reasoning? What kind of Familu Trauma is she creating for you by asking you to deny your families words and primary method of self-expression?
Hard Pass. Say BYE asap because you’re not standing by your “language.” You’re standing by the majority of your identity. We identify deeply with the words we use to express ourselves.
She is trying to silence you and using past events of oppression to Oppress you.
I mean, this is the first time she’s brought it up since you guys have been together? The story is weird.
NYA.
She hates your native language and cant stand to be around it. She’s not the one for you.
Nta- she is being very toxic and controlling. Its a red flag because it appears to be the ground work for cutting out your family…you are french, and should be free to be yourself and proud of your culture. As does she. Bring your cultures together is a beautiful thing. You also deserve to be loved for who you are and not forced to change.
Dump her. She’s the supremecist.
NTA she’s racist and you’re better off without her
Your girlfriend needs to get over herself. NTA.
NTA but the two of you are fundamentally incompatible. You have a choice to make – her or your family. Choose wisely.
NTA. Either she needs to hold that same energy towards English, Spanish, Russian, Japanese, and Chinese, or she needs to get over herself and recognise that a language is just a language
NTA
It’s your native language you should be allowed to speak it anytime you want. Also her being annoyed at you that France colonised Vietnam isn’t right. You are French but you weren’t the one to colonise Vietnam.
You are definitely NTA.
NTA, but I think this is a major HTDO for her and you might want to consider if maybe you two are not compatible. This is always going to be an issue, and worse is that she is dismissing your family’s language while insisting that any children you may have would “obviously” be bilingual in English and her spoken language. I think that’s enough to consider that maybe things have gone far enough.
She wants you to cut off pieces of yourself, but what is she going to sacrifice? Yeah, unfortunately your relationship is over. NTA
Sounds like an excuse to cause a break up.
Especially as the bi-lingual children comment seems to be a recent flip-flop. If she had really hated your first language that much, it would have come up before now. I think she just wants to end the relationship and claim you were the one to end it (makes one suspect that she is potentially hiding something).
Break up that shit is weird. Nta
Holding a grudge from 1800s is a bit much, dating a native of the country you have a grudge against 100% psychotic! Let her stay at her parents and you move in.
We should never forget history or the traumas involved but she knew who you were when you started dating. And asking you to deny your heritage and native tongue is next level abuse and manipulation! And of course a step in the same direction colonizers took!
Run girl run!
NTA. What your GF is asking is not realistic, and in terms of colonialism, its the same with English as with French. She herself doesn’t even know Vietnamese. She isn’t thinking clearly and isn’t emotionally ready for a serious relationship. I think you guys just aren’t compatible.
NTA. Girlfriends (or boyfriends) are supposed to love and support you. They root for you and hold you when you fail. They should make you feel good about yourself. Your girlfriend is failing miserably. Find someone better who loves and supports you. You are young and have plenty of time to find someone more empathetic who loves all of you, even the part who laughs at cats on leashes and speaks French (a beautiful Romance language).
NTA. Holding the French government’s actions in Vietnam against the entire french-speaking population of the world for all perpetuity is unreasonable. Demanding that her French boyfriend never speak his native language is ridiculous and unrealistic.
What Trauma? Her great grandmother’s trauma? Using that logic to hate French people while being American is so stupid it’s funny. The Americans messed up vietnam pretty recently.
You realize she’s asking you to erase your identity and family for an identity she has adopted, right? Generations old trauma is supposedly more important than your living family and your native language. She speaks English, the most colonial language there is. I hope you realize she’s being a silly bigot. I don’t hate everyone German for the shit my grandparents went through and I doubt you do either. That’s effectively what this boils down to.
NTA
NTA and I agree with others that if she can’t get over this issue you don’t have a future. Any children you had would be taught to hate their French side when they are half-French. That’s ridiculous.
Imagine it the other way around. If a French person in a relationship with a Vietnamese person told them they found them speaking their language disgusting and they couldn’t share it with their future children, everyone would call that racist. The colonial history is no excuse for this behaviour.
She can’t hold you responsible for something that happened long before you were born. She’s also being ridiculous as i presume you have a French accent, are culturally very French and she knew your nationality when you met. Maybe you can try talking to her family as they seem welcoming and to have far less of an issue with your French-ness, but it sounds like you need to end things for the sake of avoiding future issues.
YTA for a ridiculous story. Why do OP’s friends in these stories always take the unhinged side?
She’s perfectly fine speaking English, literally the language of those that had the most colonies all around the world (as far as I know) yet hates French? I don’t get it..
Break up please, you don’t want her values and views instilled on your children
She sounds exhausting.
Looking down at the language your family speaks, your native language. Getting annoyed at you for finding joy in thing she doesn’t
You said she makes you happy. But does she? She sounds rather dismissive of you. You deserve to be loved by someone who actually likes you
NTA. French is a colonizer language and English is not? What’s her deal? If she genuinely believes that, I’m sorry to tell you this but she is a bit of an idiot. If she doesn’t actually believe this, she is either trying to avoid meeting your family or just wants to create issues. Most of the time when people create issues out of thin air, they’re looking for a way out of the relationship without them having to be the one to break up. Either way, talk to her, see what her logic is, speaking English but refusing to be anywhere near someone who speaks French (while dating a French person) and assuming her own culture and family are more important than yours.
I’ve walked a cat on a leash lots of times, and it’s always funny. NTA.
(Oh, and NTA for that other stuff too. If you have generational trauma about a culture, maybe don’t try and date someone from that culture until you’ve figured that shit out).
Lmao at complaining about this at all, but especially while speaking English as your primary language. NTA, also your gf is a moron.
She’s racist and you’re signing up for it. You are not compatible. She’s insulting you over and over. Want that to continue? 😬🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Not sure if you need more. 😬
NTA
First she is just batshit crazy, this level of hate towards a language, and using english to quality french language of white supremacy that
Second those other people are not friend, how would they react if they where asked to ban their own roots ?
A ce niveau il ne te reste plus qu’une chose a faire, largue la, et annonce le lui en français
Nta, if i’d be insane for being mad that my partner speaks japanese and demand they not use it around me due to the history with my grandfather and the japanese imperial army, she’d be insane for doing that to you.
She sounds like a pain in the neck.
NO NO NO NTA. what mf trauma the one belonging to her grandmother? over a language she cannot speak? over another language she cannot speak? and my second point is that it is REALLY REALLY RICH. to talk about “white supremacist” languages when y’all are having this conversation IN ENGLISH. DID WE FORGET THE ENGLISH COLONIZED EVERYBODY?? sorry your girlfriend tbh and i’m really sorry but she sounds very uneducated and just wants to hate you bc of a culture thing against french people. bc if i had to put myself in your shoes that would be like if my “no sabo” boyfriend told me i wasn’t allowed to speak spanish bc well “spain colonized all of us 600 years ago using genocide” which is well true but regardless i now exist due to genocide my entire bloodline speaks spanish due to the genocide so ultimately spanish the language is now my history too. Youre NTA .
Assuming this isn’t fake, NTA.
If she’s so anti-French, why is she with you in the first place?
NTA, if she hates the french that much why is she with you!? Why is her heritage more important than yours??
NTA. Almost every country has both been agressor and victim in the past. And while it is a good thing to acknowledge history, it’s not reasonable to hold this history against descendants of past agressors.
After all, you and your parents aren’t the ones who enslaved Viernamese people, just as your gf isn’t the one that enslaved people in the past.
Laughing at the irony of English being her native tongue and her having no issue with English being a “colonial white supremacist” language, but she has some massive issue with French?
She’s doing some Olympic level mental gymnastics if she’s trying to give you an ultimatum on French- it’s a pretty shitty partner to “forbid” you from speaking your native tongue.
NTA in the slightest- do you really want to be in this relationship with a partner who seems to aggressively hate your heritage?
Gtfoh
NTA but your girlfriend is for sure TA.
NTA; also, 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩!
Going from what you’ve said, NTA.
France has a dodgy colonial history, but you can’t help where you were born and grew up. If she’s that closed off to who you are, what experiences you have had and what your culture is, I don’t think it bodes well for the future. It’s hard enough to have homophobic family (hopefully, they’re not racist to boot). At least it seems like they’re working on their attitudes and trying to grow up a bit.
Your GF isn’t. Relationships are about compromises, not about one side making all the demands and none of the concessions.
NTA.
While I suspect there are words in French that are or could be racist, I’ll bet there are words in Vietnamese that are as well. IMHO, it’s the PERSON that is a racist, rather than the language.
ok, op, who have you been colonizing? Bad OP!
Break up with her. She’s an idiot. You didn’t go colonize Vietnam. She wasn’t alive during that time. How the f is it your fault. She needs a reality check.
Your gf makes no sense. How can she date a French person if she has issues with the French people?
HER trauma? Trauma from fucking what? the French colonization of Vietnam ended in 1954 your girl wasn’t even a twinkle in someone’s eye in 1954.
Does her family know you are French??
Also, NTA.
You are NTA. You come from a French speaking background and you should not be expected to give up your native language. She is wrong to ask this of you & disrespectful of your background. You and your gf are not compatible due to her beliefs. It’s disappointing but I think you might need to break up like she’s suggested.
Funny, I speak French (not fluently but I can get by) because of my Acadian heritage. The French speakers in Acadia were not only not colonizers but were largely kicked out of their homes. Many resettled in Louisiana and became Cajuns.
NTA. You may love her, but you are not compatible with her. She not only admitted to hatred of your background, but furthermore emphasize that she wants to erase it. She will never interact with your family. She will never appreciate your background. She will never allow any children you have to celebrate any part of your heritage. She has told you upfront her plans to erase who you are. Why would you want to stay with someone like that?
NTA.I had two grandparents of full blooded French ancestry (one maternal grandfather and one paternal grandmother) in addition to my paternal Italian grandfather having French DNA as well. None of us is racist, period. Your girlfriend shouldn’t “punish you for the sins of your father,” to quote an old expression (“father” being loosely used to describe ancestors in general). She’s the prejudiced one who can not let go of the history her Vietnamese ancestors endured. I’d tell her that nearly every country on our planet has been raided, conquered, colonized, etc. I don’t hate English people for forcing my French ancestors out of Nova Scotia nor for their government’s part in the Great Potato Famine my Irish ancestors endured. She really needs to get over herself.
…and English isn’t a “white supremacist language”? NTA. It’s your heritage, and she has no right to deny your language and identity.
If she thinks French is a repellent coloniser language, I’m… surprised she is happy to speak English.
I don’t think you’re the asshole here, but I suspect you and your gf are not in it for the long haul.
NTA. She thinks your language and culture are disgusting, though. Do you really think this is something that can be long term with that barrier in place?
I wish you the best and hope you make the best choices for yourself.
I don’t like her attitude about a language millions of people speak. It gives bigoted vibes. NTA.
NTA, but it’s pretty funny that she calls French “a white supremacist language” in THE language of imperialism.
NTA
If she is this prejudiced against French people, she should not have a French girlfriend.
You have every right to speak your native language with your own family, as long as you translate and don’t exclude her from the conversation when she is present.
I can’t get past her worming her way into an ESL meetup when English is her first language. Plus her hatred of French for their colonization – does she have no clue what the English have done as far as colonization and repressing people?
NTA, and nevermind “may mean the end of my relationship”. Get out of this relationship before you invest more time in someone who hates your heritage.
She hates the French and yet is with someone who is French. And her grandmother is from Vietnam, but GF doesn’t speak it and wants her kids other language to be Vietnamese, but not French. And she doesn’t want to be around anyone who speaks French despite your family all being French speakers. Hmmm.
Can you tell the girl living in the USA about all of the awful things that transpired during the Vietnam war and how the Americans did some really awful things so maybe she should leave the USA and go live in Vietnam?
Or you can just recognize that she’s spoiled, selfish, and immature and go find someone else.
NTA this is insane.
English is also the language of colonisers. Hence why it’s the ‘universal’ language.
NTA.
DTMFA. Seriously.
What fucking trauma dis she inherit from her great-grandmother?
She does even speak her heritage language, ffs.
Let me guess, y’all are in college and she just now learned about generational trauma.
Oh gawd, shes horrible! The hypocrisy is outstanding; A+ level hypocrisy.
She as an English-speaking American thinks French is “disgusting” because the French colonized Vietnam.
Does she know an ounce of American history. How can she look at her disgusting self in the mirror if she does?
Please let her be your Ex GF. Her level of ignorance is embarrassing.
Time to break up. She literally called you disgusting. Nta
NTA. She knew who you were when she got with you. If she thinks she can change you, she’s wrong. And btw OP, the right partner will never ask you to change. I’d say “damn, if a grudge from a century ago makes you unable to fully accept me, it would probably be best for all involved to no longer date. Good luck with (insert specific job/school thing here), and I hope you have a great life.”
So your gf is racist. NTA. Time to break up and find someone worth your time.
ESH. Her for obvious reasons, you for making this post clearly hoping to get random internet strangers to dunk on your girlfriend who you supposedly love—you call her Vietnamese-American and then later do the whole “they say I am disrespecting her trauma (her great-grandmother was from Vietnam)” thing. Is this meant to be a dig at her for being only part Vietnamese, or is it just that you think multiple generations having lived in America makes you somehow less your ethnicity? Can’t tell from the wording. She sounds absolutely exhausting, but I can’t say that I would be cool having a white partner who talks like this about my race/ethnicity in this weird, dismissive way 🤷♂️ (And no, her being over-the-top about France/French does not mean you should do the same in response.)
Nta. Just break up. You will find someone better
Her trauma because her great grandmother was from Vietnam. Christ on a bike 🤔
No. You’re not the asshole. Red flag alert. Take heed and run now.
C’est une conne.
No, she’s the problem.
> She said she finds French “disgusting” and that it is a “white supremacist language” and that the French colonized Vietnam so she refuses to be near anyone speaking the language.
So your partner finds a HUGE part of you (your language and heritage…) disgusting… She told you to your face that she finds your language disgusting and you are here wondering if YOU are the asshole? She stated that she refuses to be near anyone speaking your native language……. You are NTA.
Red flag, run while you can.
Girl doesnt speak Vietnamese wtf break up fuvk her
NTA, but this relationship is untenable.
You are not compatible. She has decided that your language and culture are offensive.
NTA – she just doesn’t like you as a person lmao.
Wtf… you need to break up. NTA
Denying the French language is to deny a large part of yourself. Language isn’t just words and sounds. It’s culture, too. Honestly, you’d just be subjecting yourself to a slow death if you stay with her.
Soft NTA, I agree with her that French is an awful language but like if you feel that strongly don’t date a Frenchman?
Doesn’t want to speak a colonizer language but speaks English???
You are not allowed to speak your own native language, because it’s a coloniser language? But English isn’t? She’s harping on French colonisation of Vietnam, which ended 70 years ago, but the American Vietnam war which was much more recent is ok? Her family loves you, but her great grandmother (who’s most likely dead) is traumatised? None of this makes sense.
NTA. Your language is part of your identity. As someone from the UK, I get that the colonial past is awful, but you can’t stop being French just because your ancestors were twats. She’s telling you you can never be around your family, teach your kids your language, have friends from home visit… It’d be a hard no from me.
You can’t change where you grew up and shouldn’t be asked to act like it didn’t happen. Your gf is the problem. Know your worth and move on.
You are NTA but your girlfriend is a racist. Dump her, in French, with extra swear words.
My God, is she for real? Just how long ago did that invasion happen? Which members of her direct family were killed? Grandad? Great great grandad? Why does she believe ALL French speaking people (which includes a bunch of extremely polite candaians) are responsible for war crimes?
Doe she have any idea what English speaking ancestors got up to? (I’m english). Has she heard of the American slave trade? The Vietnam war? Couldn’t she pick an up to date war to be salty about?
Soooo many questions…
yeah, that’s a wild stance to take. run for the hills!
Boy is she going to be PISSED when she finds out about the English!!
Mon Dieu. Some people just wake up looking for reasons to be offended. Pourqoui est-elle son copine? C’est votre future, OP
Hope she doesn’t get in a twist drinking crémant or eating croissants.
NTA
So she forbids you to speak your native language and will never meet your family because of the risk of hearing French?
Ditch her. That kind of ultimatum never ends well.