Ladies, I’m just doing a flounder here and I can’t stop crying.
My mom died on 7/1/24 and her funeral was on my best-beloved aunt’s birthday on 7/3. My grandmother ignored my mom dying to ask if I got my aunt a birthday card. The bitch of this is that is was years ago. It doesn’t stop hurting.
I want to let this go for my own peace of mind. Do any of you have a hint?
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I validate your feelings
I’m so sorry. My only advice (and feel free to ignore this if it doesn’t work for you) is to redirect your line of thinking when this day comes around. When the anniversary comes, the day is ONLY about your mom, not about your grandmother or aunt. The second your brain starts thinking abt what GMA did or any of that, take a deep breath and redirect the thought.
Example: “mom loved those birds. Man I miss her. God, I still can’t believe grandma…no, no, today is NOT about grandma. It’s about mom. Yes, it sucks it happened, but it happened. There’s nothing I can do abt it now, so let’s celebrate my mom’s life” and try to fully let go of that previous negative thought.
Wishing you the best 💕