I’m a female, and everyone I asked had mixed answers about this. My friends said no if you’re relaxed enough but then my older sister said yes depending on well… Down there. So I am just asking for the sake of curing my own nerves about it.
I’m a female, and everyone I asked had mixed answers about this. My friends said no if you’re relaxed enough but then my older sister said yes depending on well… Down there. So I am just asking for the sake of curing my own nerves about it.
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For some it does, for some it doesn’t. Make sure you’re warmed up properly and use lube if needed
Have an orgasm before any type of penetration! Don’t be afraid to stop, go slow. ❤️ make sure you feel comfortable and safe.
For some it does, for some it doesn’t. Just make sure that you are very ready and if using extra lube makes you less nervous about it being painful, do it.
Even if there is some discomfort, it generally shouldn’t be anything super painful. I didn’t feel any discomfort the first time, some of my friends did but they said it was not really painful.
Didn’t hurt me – I just felt like – you know when you have to wrap your mouth around a HUGE sandwich? Sort of like that. And of course it was a completely new feeling anyway.
It wasn’t painful for me my first time having penetrative sex. It was definitely different and it takes a second for your vagina to be ready to take it (need to be turned on enough that your vagina is ready for penetration) but I said, it didn’t hurt for me. Take it slow. Foreplay is SUCH an important part of sex.
Edit #1: As someone else said, have an orgasm before having sex. Learn your body and what you like. Own your sexuality.
Edit #2: As someone else said, use lube if it’s too tight of a fit. But I can’t stress it enough; warm yourself up before trying to stick it in.
Edit #3: Spelling error
For most women there is a little bit of pain due to stress, wrong moves, not putting it enough time to get lubricated ect, but it’s really nothing excrusiating! I really think the pain thing was put in our brains as part of the sex prevention style sex ed
Not necessarily
There are so many variables here that no answer will be correct.
Preparing is important! If you are not wet, it could hurt both of you. This is one reason why foreplay is a must.
Size matters! If his parts are too big for your parts, it can cause pain. Especially if #1 isn’t handled properly
Direction, angle, speed, depth ALL play a part. Different positions can result in enjoyable or painful entries.
Chemicals can adjust your perception of the sensations. Everything from alcohol to endorphins can change your perception of what it feels like when things are happening. If you are hyper aware of everything going on, it may seen like it is hurting when it is not. Remember that an itch is firing the same signals as a cut, it is your brain that is deciding one if very bad.
The best way to ensure having a good time is communication. Express your concerns to your partner-to-be.
Next to should be exploring yourself (fingers, toys, whatever) first to know what you find enjoyable and what you don’t. YOU should be in control of the first things to go inside you. The saying “you only get one chance to make a good first impression” works here. You will be able to figure out how deep something can go before hurting, how big around (girth) you can take before it starts getting uncomfortable.
The last thing that should be “the first thing to enter” in someone else’s penis.
But, this is all the opinion of a hetero male, so take it with a grain of salt.
For many women, losing virginity can indeed involve some degree of pain or discomfort… all due to a lack of lubrication and inexperience with penetration. So prep is key! Take time to get turned on first and communicate with your partner about what feels good. Don’t let fear hold you back, you’ll be glad you took it slow and got comfortable with your body