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My ex husband has become UNHINGED and i need advice

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Location: Oklahoma
Ok so, my ex husband is a raging narcissist and bigot. I left him and started dating a woman. It’s been a year and a half just about and the divorce/child support papers are signed and done with.
However, now he’s turned into a psychopath. Threatening me constantly with going back to court and how his lawyers have all my texts (which only show him acting erratically and constantly degrading and threatening and harassing me). It has escalated recently with it being pride month and is basically saying its child abuse to take our kids (2 are her nieces that she got custody of and my daughter) out to a pride event which is recommended for families (even tho he seems to think they’re all advertised as not being family friendly, not sure where he gets his info). Regardless every event for pride that we go to we make sure is family friendly. Not only that but he’s trying to say I dont need to be taking my daughter to church related functions…but then turns around and takes her to church related functions. Im at a loss. My lawyer is very helpful, when I can actually get ahold of him. He’s expensive (and worth it) but he’s got a full case load so getting a chance to talk to him is pretty slim.
I just need help. Please.

Comments

  1. dginmc Avatar
    dginmc

    What is the legal question that you are asking? Full custody? Stalking and harassment?

  2. Water_Ways Avatar
    Water_Ways

    You should be talking to your lawyer about this.

    1. I dont know if Oklahoma has what we have in Ohio where the only communication that happens between you and your ex is through a court administered website and it only has to do with your children. It may be best to be no contact except through that type of communication.
    2. There’s an important distinction between illegal behavior and “bad” behavior. If he makes violent threats towards you or your children that is illegal. If he otherwise makes your life a living hell through bad behavior that’s more nuanced.
    3. Migrating your communications from normal texting/calls/cell phone to a court administered program can show a pattern of behavior if he gives you a hard time. That can help if you need to escalate things to change the custody arrangement or have court evidence of worse behavior.
    4. If you one day decide you have to make a change those court documented communications could be key to showing a pattern of non-compliance with the court order. So anytime he says or does anything just to mess you up can build into a case to change the court order in order for the children to have the most stable life possible.