So for context, me and my girlfriend have been dating for more than a year now. She has a guy friend that she knew way before me and the guy claimed himself to be her bestfriend. So fast forward to last week, I found out that they were planning to go out tomorrow and that she had already told me about her plans. I feel a heavy hearted rn. Is it okay to feel that way?
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Depends if you trust her or not.
depends on how you manage things, if it’s okay for both sides to have opposite sex friendships, then it’s okay for both of you to do so
you can tell her that you feel a bit joules, maybe she can handle things better
maybe you both can put a rule that there is no one to one opposite sex catch-ups
I am not saying that she is doing something wrong, I am just saying your feeling are valid and some couples handle these things
As a married woman who has 2 very close guy friends, as long as she has been open about her friendship with him and has not given you any reasons to doubt her, I don’t see any issues with her going out with him to catch up. I pretty frequently go out with my guy friends and my husband has never acted or presented to me that he was jealous or doubtful in any way. I have always been very open about my friendships with them and have never hidden anything about them from my husband and my husband has even gotten to know them very well over the years. Your feelings are valid and you should talk to her if it’s something that’s going to continue to bother you. I would always be open to a conversation with my husband if I or my friends ever did anything to make him feel uncomfortable.
To add: I was friends with them for years before I met my husband