Hello Reddit! I need some help with a situation, that’s odd, to say the least. I need some help.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months now, everything’s been amazing, I love her with all my heart. There’s one single issue in our whole relationship, and that’s her brother. I’ve known him for a few years now, at one point we even were pretty close(we’re both 19). Before getting together with her, whilst we were just talking I thought it would be for the best to talk with him and tell him about the fact that me and his sister are talking(btw she is the one who reached out to me, it was nothing serious at first until we feel in love with each other) he didn’t take it well and I respected his choice and talked with his sister, my girlfriend about this, she was really mad about this, and talked with her mother, who suggested that she minds her own business and shouldn’t mind him. Ever since then it has gotten way worse with him, dudes been an absolute ass hole, he genuinely just dislikes me and does everything he possibly can to break us up, and I mean it when I say everything. He went a few days ago to they’re parents house and talked so much shit about me and said some crazy things that aren’t even true, like how I’m just trying to f*ck his sister and leave her, they’re parents initially believed him since he’s the older brother which Is understandable, she talked with them and told them about me and what not, and that it’s not the case. He’s been telling all lies about me, just like he did to they’re parents, he genuinely just dislikes me and thinks I’m an absolute asshole because of the fact that I didn’t “listen” to him about breaking up with her. Today me and him randomly ran into each other and he started telling me about how he’s been really mad these past few days thinking about this and how I have to break up with her beacuse he can’t stand it anymore, and how he’s told me before, (even tho I’ve never agreed to it) I’ve stood my ground and tried bringing up arguments on why and why I won’t be doing it, he’s been making a really really big case out of this, and I’ve tried changing his mind but there’s no way of doing it. And I can’t just ignore him, beacuse he keeps on doing this shit, and making it really hard for us. Any ideas?
TL;DR: my gfs brother won’t let us be together and there’s no changing his opinion
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He can’t make you break up. And you’d teens, you can’t exactly cut him off since they live in the same home.
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You can’t make him stop, and in fact, trying to make him stop will probably reinforce the idea in his head that he actually has the power to break you up if he keeps trying, which he doesn’t. Ignore him and continue to date.