Caught my boyfriend lying about his job and he tried to manipulate me

I just found out that my boyfriend has been lying about his entire career, and the way he tried to gaslight and guilt-trip me after I confronted him was honestly crazzzyyy.

He told me he worked for Houston PD. Claimed he had just finished FTO (field training officer), was getting assigned to gang task force, and even recently said he was being sent to Mexico to work an assignment… what??

Honestly my gut was telling me something was off but I always ignored it because my love for him clouded my judgement so bad. But here are some inconsistencies I found:

• He previously told me he got kicked out of the academy in Jan 2024 after a road rage incident… but suddenly he’s back in a few months later? Assigned to federal-level work? With no training in between and only doing FTO?
• He visits me in SF a lot.. for someone with a demanding, supposedly high-security job, how is he constantly traveling from Houston to SF? One time he came 3 times in like 10 days.
• He always told me his phone was being monitored, which is why he couldn’t say “I love you” or talk emotionally. But still had no problem sending sexual texts. If his phone was constantly being monitored, wouldn’t everything be monitored and not certain words?
• And here’s the kicker: once, he sent me a photo “from Houston.” I saved it because it was a selfie of him. I never checked at the time when and where it was taken but just recently, when I started getting suspicious, I checked the metadata because I still had the photo saved, and the timestamp showed 12 hours ahead of my time zone. You know what place is 12 hours ahead of California? Pakistan. Where he’s originally from.
• Here’s something that really confirmed everything I had been suspicious about, I don’t know why I had a feeling that I should check his Linkedin. I found it and it says under his employment history that he had been working in the Bay Area doing executive protection since October of 2022. I remember at that time, he told me had gotten into to police academy in Houston.
• We never followed each other on IG but I saw his profile and his bio says “CA 📍”

At that point, it all unraveled.

I calmly messaged him: “You’ve been lying to me.”
His response? Gaslighting, denial, insults. Claimed I was jumping to conclusions, that I never asked him about his LinkedIn. He told me to FaceTime in at 12:30am so be can show me he’s in Houston. Why not show me proof right now? He also blocked me on Instagram immediately after I confronted him probably to hide the “CA 📍” in his bio.

A few hours later, he texts me:
“Do you want me to show you my government-issued ID? Will that be enough?”

If you had proof, why didn’t you show it right away?
Why wait until I’m done with you to suddenly offer “evidence”?
It’s because he never expected me to put the pieces together.

I’m honestly heartbroken. I loved this man. I wanted a future with him. I was loyal, supportive, and patient. But he disrespected my trust, manipulated me with wild stories, and tried to make me feel like the villain for asking questions.

But not anymore.

Ladies: your gut never lies. Even when your heart wants to believe him, listen to that little voice in your head telling you something’s not right. Because it probably isn’t.

And to the liar in question: I hope your fake badge keeps you warm at night.

ETA: I never visited him in Houston, he never wanted me to come and waste my money when he could just come to SF so he can see me, friends and families