we had the most perfect relationship. when i tell you nobody in our life would have suspected ANYTHING. 4 years down the drain. i know my love was genuine and i dont know how you could ever do that to someone while pretending you loved them. i feel sick to my stomach, absolutely betrayed. he hasn’t only betrayed me but his friends, his family, everyone we knew. he had been hooking up with someone else the past 3 years of our relationship. genuinely how do i heal from this? i dont know how i’ll ever trust someone again this was so out of the blue. he wants to work on things now and i dont know what to tell him cause now i feel like i never even knew the guy. have you ever been through this what did you do?
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Don’t give him another chance. If he was able to betray everyone, that’s some serious deception, and you’ll never be able to trust him.
Before doing anything, call a therapist so you won’t start doubting your faith in yourself, won’t let huge trust issues build, etc.
There’s no need to talk to him anymore. He lied, in big ways, apparently. I’m so sorry.
I’m so sorry. You deserve better. Someone who can lie like that lacks empathy, and can become very dangerous. Focus on yourself, get that independent self love glow up.
Yeah my ex husband had an affair while I was pregnant 6 years ago. The divorce is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Fuck him. Move on