We’ve been dating for 2 years and just recently she randomly slipped this in the convo. She said that she tells all her female friends that our sex life is very bad so they don’t try and have sex with me.
We have very high sex drives and have done it for up to a few hours a day, every day. And she has not once told me something displeases her or shown it nonverbally, on the contrary – she has always loved it.
What she told them is a problem however, because she has many friends and when they acquire this info, they’ll talk to others and in time many women will have a bad opinion of me for something that isn’t true, as well as many men will have the same opinion and try to shoot their shots with her, thinking she’s unhappy with our sex life. Public image is also important.
What to do here? I’ve talked about it and she doesn’t seem to care about my concerns. I need advice.
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If you fuck like a god, then ignore it.
Start an OF page so that you have direct evidence of the contrary.
Oooor see this as the red flag that it is. Toxic partners damage our reputations and manipulate people. Loving partners in healthy relationships don’t do this. I tell everyone that my husband is a stallion and then watch in amusement as he rebuffs the cougars. It works for us because I trust him. Your girlfriend does not trust you.
Gonna have to bang her best friend. You know, just to defend your good name.
Tell everyone she gave u herpes 🤣
Id be pretty annoyed if my girlfriend did this and suspect she’d be pretty annoyed if you went around telling her mates she was frigid or bad in bed too.
It’s more about making them think she’s taking pity on you by staying with someone who doesn’t satisfy her.
Why doesn’t she just keep it to herself and not talk about it? Be private sure, but saying you’re rubbish in bed isn’t on.. I’m not even going to start on why she thinks her “friends” would do that.
She has the wrong “friends” when she fears they would try to get with you when she tells them truth.
She doesn’t trust you, and she doesn’t care about your concerns. Two big red flags.
You can communicate about the trust issues and lack of concern. If it’s not productive I can’t imagine that being a relationship worth keeping. If she’s willing to speak badly about you because she believes you’d cheat… idk I wouldn’t want anything to do with that
absolute crazy work if we are that deep into paranoia that someone we consider a ‘friend’ to cheat with our SO
Have her friends tried to or successfully hooked up with one of her previous partners?
My boyfriend has one friend that I might need to get bribed to pick up off of the side of the highway and I’d feel absolutely gutted if I found out he was trashing my sex game to that one person that I’d never want anything to do with even in my dying days😭😭
This is called trust issues and she is insecure about her all friends you should take a stand for yourself
“So they will shoot their shots with her, thinking she’s unhappy.”
Seems like both of you have this immature thought that somehow sex with your partner being good or bad has anything to do with the act of cheating.
Sounds like you’re in some very dumb, immature, relationship drama that you’ll likely look back on in a couple of years and wonder why you and her were ever so upset about something so silly.
I kinda think you stink in bed and she’s telling the truth to her friends and just doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
Does that make a difference?
If your girl doesn’t care about your social image status and your whole personality then why are you staying with her… I guess self respect matters nowadays sorry to say but leave her it’s not a joke which she is doing with you
Why just not say anything. That was also an option.
If she has to fear her friends would be willing to try to sleep with you, she needs new friends, or therapy to help with whatever is going on in her head.
She is insecure to the point of publicly insulting her partner just so her “friends” aren’t attracted to him. That’s hilarious and crazy. What’s next ? She s gonna cut ur hair because they are too beautiful ? Or make you don’t shower so you don’t smell good? Absurd tbh.
My suggestion is to tell her to go to therapy. That’s the only possible way for change. Otherwise, she is very very toxic to you. Spreading false rumors just to make her feel better at the big age of 23😭. That can’t be healthy, especially if you told her your stance on that and she doesn’t seem to care as you said.
Take care of yourself and your reputation, OP
Frankly, you both have issues. She is weirdly possessive, a liar and toxic and you on the other hand care about the wrong things.
Public image? For fucks sake, it doesn’t matter if you can get it up all night, care about what makes you a good person. Nobody will blame you if you don’t want to be with a toxic liar, but don’t pin it on some dumb perception of masculinity you have.
She’s insecure