I’m a 20-year-old woman and have always identified as straight, I’ve had crushes on boys, craved their attention, and never really questioned it. But looking back, I never imagined doing more than kissing them, I also have always been turned off by male genitalia, even when I first started watching porn and had unsupervised access to the internet lol I was only seeking out women and focused entirely on their bodies.
I’ve never really had full-on crushes on girls, though I’ve felt infatuated a few times. It feels like my romantic feelings are directed toward men and I still want men to find me attractive and give me attention, but I don’t want to get intimate with them, I find penises repulsive and nothing about the male body really does anything to me but with women something as simple as their voice can turn me on. I also have a lot of religious guilt and live in a place where being open about this is not even an option I don’t want to be ostracised by everyone. I’m a virgin too, so I’ve never been with anyone, and on the rare occasions where a man shows interest in me (like right now) I am confused about whether I should open the door for him or if I should keep it platonic cause I might be a raging lesbian.
I don’t know what label fits me and I know things can’t really change where I live, but I’d like to understand myself better. I know no one knows me better than I do but I would like the opinion of an outsider.
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Maybe you’re interested in both. I’m bisexual maybe you are too. Also somebody told me “most straight people don’t question their sexuality so if you do chances are your bi”
Just sound like a confused female teenager. Avoid stereotyping or labelling yourself like the other people might suggest.
Give yourself time and space to explore before going full blown lezbo.
Sounds like you should experiment. Try some from column A and some from column B and she what you like. Maybe one, maybe both. Maybe one most of the time, and the other sometimes.
yeah, you’re not straight.
whether you call it lesbian, bi with a strong lean, or just “not into men,” doesn’t really matter. you’re clearly not into guys beyond surface-level validation, and your body’s making it pretty obvious who actually turns you on.
don’t overthink the label. just stop forcing yourself into situations with dudes to appease other people. you already know.
compulsive heterosexuality is a thing, combined with your religious guilt, it may make it hard for you to fully access or believe the part of you that may be romantically and/or sexually interested in women.
you’re allowed to explore and see more about what you may like and don’t like. go at your own pace. there’s not a deadline for defining yourself or figuring this stuff out. but it’s up to you to choose yourself and pursue happiness however you define it, even if doing so may be challenging or scary at times.
Probably not a lesbian. Good chance many of your feelings may change when you find a good guy, your guy
Hey friend, for whatever its worth, you don’t have to have all the answers at once. You can explore your feelings for boys or girls without it being a defined thing. You are young, you are still probably learning what you like and dont like and you will be for quite sometime. Give yourself some grace in these moments to have thoughts and explore without worrying necessarily about the the long term.
I guess what I’m trying to say is… you might be or you might be bi or you might find later you’re not as interested in some things as you thought and thats ok. Its ok not to know. Not all at once.
As a lesbian, you definitely described experiences as a teenager questioning my sexuality. I know it is going to be said 10,000 times but do what’s best for you. I knew i didn’t need to label myself as a teen, but i felt restless until i was able to find a name for my feelings. I would say you are queer of some description, most likely lesbian or possibly bisexual with a preference for women. I recommend you look up Comphet as well. I wish you luck in your sexuality discovery and I hope your religious guilt eases < 3
You might be a lesbian, especially if you’re only physically into women. It’s okay to take your time trust what feels right for you.