First of all, yes I am fat. I’m 70kg and 5ft. I’m the first person who sees this in the morning.
My new-ish boss has been there for 8 months, and we’re the first team she’s ever handled. She’s never directly said anything to me but here’s why I think she’s at the minimum, throwing potshots at me. She does this to me 3x a day.
• She would interrupt my conversations with co-workers with an obviously compliment fishing line (Ohh it’s so hard losing so much weight, my pants fall off without a belt; I can’t use this dress anymore because it’s so loose) and my co-worker drops our convo to say something nice “Not at all! You look so good”. She looks at me for 2 seconds waiting for my turn and I … dont say anything.
• It’s the only thing she mentions around me. She can open other topics with other co-workers like work and her kids but whenever she sees me she would mention her workout and diet. The first thing she told me in the morning was “my husband said i look like a total pig, and I retorted that he was ugly”. I gave a small chuckle and didn’t engage. Damn whatever happened to good morning huh.
• My very telling thing is that when I resigned, the first thing she said was “Is this because of me?” and all I could say was “What? Ofc not.” (bcs it isnt? i just found a better job). Internally, I’m thinking is there a reason for me to quit because of you? Are you admitting to shit you’ve been doing?
I wouldn’t say I’m insecure or hurt by the things she says but it’s just odd. Is she trying to motivate me? It’s not working whatever it is.
TLDR: Boss only talks abt workouts and being slimmer around me all day, fishing for compliments