Me(19F) and my partner(20M) currently have been having a rough time, he’s been struggling lots with his life and Ive been trying to give him as much attention as possible and it’s really affecting me. Rarely ever do we talk about me, I mentioned that issue and that’s how we got here. He was asking me questions and got to one about our relationship, I say I don’t know, he keeps pestering me asking if it’s about him his actions something he said, and that’s all understandable tbh. But I tell him I’m uncomfortable answering it in the moment, he continues to ask questions and say why not just answer the whole situation since we’re this far, still I tell him I’m not comfortable. He then gets angry because I leave him overthinking and anticipating if his life and future is in jeopardy because we might breakup and goes on to talk about how he feels hated by everyone and now me because of this. Another moment this happened is when I was given the opportunity to move to another country and essentially leaving him, but ofc I needed lots of time to think about it and he blames me for not thinking of him and making him wait.
TL;DR
Partner doesn’t respect boundaries and that I need space to think, mainly talks about him and only views how things affect him
Comments
His overthinking isn’t your responsibility, take care of yourself.