Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years. He recently went to the doctor thinking he had a UTI, ended up with chlamydia. He swears up n down he never cheated on me. I got tested to and Im positive too. He had never got tested before we got together(we got together at 16/17). I had tested about a year ago which showed negative. He’s swearing that the only possibility is he’s had it for the whole 4 years and it’s just now coming up. But I would’ve had it sooner no? Did he cheat on me?
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100% he cheated on you, otherwise you would have gotten it sooner. UNLESS you used a condom 100% of the time
Thank god you tested a year ago, I’m really sorry I think he might have cheated, it is true sometimes they show up later but I think last year you should’ve know if that was the case… If you really trust him I would ring the doctor and ask if it is possible for the chlamydia to show up that later on. I’m not optimistic though.
Why did you get tester a year ago? But anyways if you had unprotected sex before you got tested I would say he cheated. If he had it since before you should have tested positive a year ago
He’s cheated.
You were negative a year ago. Now you’re positive.
Really sorry.
if you were testing negative last year and now have it after only sleeping with your partner, he 100% passed it to you, meaning he has it now when he didn’t then. it’s quite unfortunate but he’s lying to you.
the same thing happened with my ex. made up some elaborate story about how he got chlamydia when in reality he just had sex with someone else. your boyfriend cheated, and is also lying!!! best thing you can do is get some antibiotics and part ways with him.
Your boyfriend is lying through his teeth and if he can do this, imagine what else his capable off? You should dump him immediately and get your self properly treated.
It can lay dormant for years, even with a negative test because you tested too soon after exposure.
However, let’s be forreal. If you were together at 16/17 and only got tested a year ago, he likely got it in the past year.
Plot twist … have YOU been faithful the whole time?
Either you got it from someone else (have you slept with anyone else?) or he slept with someone else recently. Someone cheated, that’s for sure….
Yeah… he cheated. Don’t fall for it.
Chlamydia can be in your throat too. People usually don’t get tested there, it won’t show up in a swab down under test, and it usually won’t cause any noticable issues. Chlamydia is often asymptomatic too, meaning you won’t notice it. Lots of people have Chlamydia. More over, if you recently caught Chlamydia, it’s not guaranteed to show up on a test. Only after 3 or so weeks.
With you guys having used rubbers before, with Chlamydia being asymptomatic, tests not being instantly reliable and there probably not being any throat swab tests done to rule that out, things could have happened. I am no doctor though, just someone who’s had a few visits to the clinics myself.
In the Netherlands,we no longer test for it unless specifically asked as the risks also aren’t that high until it becomes noticable after which its easily treated.
Use that information how you will. Why don’t you two go to a sexual health clinic together and ask about this scenario.. They will have much more experience.
i think the sort of hocus-pocus chlamydia dormancy stuff is kind of Biblical sounding, if you ask me. Meaning I think that he cheated on you. That would be my guess if I got a bacterial STD from my partner, like If i suddently tested positive for a bacteria infecting me I would assume I just got it and that he recently gave it to me from recent sex (with someone else). Sort of Occam’s Razor situation, the most simple or the simplest answer seems the most true to my mind at least.
So he had symptoms, which means that he probably got it recently. When men get symptoms of chlamydia, and they don’t always, the symptoms usually appear within 1-3 weeks of getting the infection.
It would be damn near impossible for you both to have it for 4 years with neither of you having symptoms for that long, and you tested negative last year. This means that he was infected at least within the last year, assuming you’ve been having unprotected (no condom) sex this whole time.
I hate to say that someone has cheated, but I can’t see any other way in this scenario. If you didn’t, he did. It also means he didn’t use protection. He could get this from receiving oral sex or vaginal sex, but it’s more likely to be vaginal sex. Oral sex is definitely a possibility, though.
No sex until you finish the 7 day course of meds, or if you got the 1 dose, until 7 days has passed. No sex at all, even with a condom. He also needs to tell whoever it is that he had sex with outside the relationship. Untreated chlamydia can cause long term issues in women, including chronic pain, serious infections and infertility. He’s already messed up once, he needs to do this part right.
I’m really sorry. 🥺
Why are women still dating men. Date women or get a cat