I am proposing to my girlfriend of 4 years, very soon.
I have arranged for a small gathering of family to celebrate the occasion at a restaurant, after I propose.
My girlfriend’s father is a serial dater and always has a random girlfriend.
I would prefer he not bring the random girlfriend of the month to this occasion.
I would like to politely text him and request he not.
Is that rude of me? I don’t want to start drama. I barely communicate with him as it is due to distance.
Other family members have said to just leave it, and ignore the girlfriend if she goes.
Perhaps I could message everyone invited and ask them to keep it to just the close family invited?
TL;dr – Proposing to my girlfriend soon. Arranged a small gathering of close family to celebrate after. Girlfriend’s dad always has a random girlfriend. Is it rude of me to ask him not to bring whoever he may be dating at the time? Do I just leave it and enjoy the occasion and ignore the girlfriend if he brings her?
I appreciate any help.
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You handle your family, she handles hers.
I think it’s a little rude. I don’t think anyone will pay much attention to her.
Would the “GF of the month” actually be a problem? Like be a jerk or start drama? Or is this a “this annoys me” thing?
>Is that rude of me? I don’t want to start drama.
Then don’t. Unless you know this woman is going to cause problems, I would just leave this alone. It’s not worth the potential for drama.
I totally understand not wanting her there but the possible issues than may arise will be worse than just having her there and not worrying about it.
Does your girlfriend want a public, surprise proposal with her family there? Does she know a proposal is coming?
Yes, it would be incredibly rude.