okay so basically I 18F met my gf 18F back in December and we stared dating in April after a month long situationship (kissed and shared feelings but I didn’t want to officialise). since then everything’s good, it’s a healthy relationship based on communication and truth.
i had asked her to go on vacations with me and my family because i’m an only child and hate going alone with only my parents, i always end up feeling lonely, arguing with them and crying for half the time. at first she wanted to come along but then replied with a no because she apparently promised a friend of hers to go with her this year.
she explained they went together two years ago and meant to go last year too, but because of bad grades her parents didn’t let her go. so she promised her to go this year to sort of make it up to her friend. i originally understood. but now that it’s near my holidays (i’m leaving tomorrow) i’ve been crying nonstop because I feel like she chose her friend over me.
and i keep telling myself her promise is stupid because my gf never go on vacations usually and nobody else ask her so in my opinion it wasn’t really a promise, just an obvious fact. so why couldn’t she say no and go with me? she already went with her. i feel bad about myself for thinking badly of my gf like that.
she’s telling me she misses me (she already left) but it makes me mad ’cause whose fault is that? and you’re not the one crying about it. it’s all on my mind and i cant enjoy anything else.
so i talked abt it to my parents and my brother (he’s 30 with a family so he doesn’t come to family vacations) and he told me he could drive me to my destination two weeks later than my parents so he could take my gf from her destination and take both of us to my holidays. (she has two weeks and me three originally, so I wouldn’t go the first two just so i could go to the third with her.)
but isn’t it wrong? i basically am not going on a two weeks vacations in spain where i can see my sister that i barely see 3/4 times a year just so i can do to a week vacations with my gf who chose to go with another girl.
i dont know what to do, should i go to my three weeks vacations, see my sister, probably cry and be bored with my parents half the time, or should i stay home (i’ll be a week home alone, which i like and it’s a rare occasion, then a week at my brother’s) and only go one week with my gf?
i’m really confused, upset and sad about it, please help me. I don’t wanna make the wrong choice.
Also should I talk about how it made me feel with her? I feel like it’s useless since she already knew how her choice would affect me.
TL;DR; : I am hesitating between going on a 3 weeks vacations, bored, without my gf but i’ll see my sister (3/4 times a year usually) or going on 1 week vacations to be with my gf, won’t see my sister. (also my gf chose to go with a friend of hers instead of me, so i’m bitter)
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