I (f21) broke up with my boyfriend (m25) today, I have been thinking about it for a while since things just haven’t changed and he promised things would be different. I was the only one bringing in money and he would rarely clean up after himself, I would tell him so many times to fix up and he also kept promising to get a job since he lost his old one over 2 years ago.
What I need advice with is he keeps texting me about how I’m abandoning him and all that but I just dont want to talk to him, I feel so bad and dont know what to do. Would blocking him be too harsh? I feel like a coward for wanting to block him but I’ve made up my mind
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You didnt abandon him, you set him free. He was sponging off you
No job for two years, living off you! ‘Bye, bye loser. Get on with your life!
Hey you’re not a coward for wanting peace. You gave him so many chances. Blocking him isn’t harsh it’s protecting your boundaries so you don’t get pulled back into guilt. You didn’t abandon him; you chose yourself this time. It’s okay to move on.
i think it’s always a possibility to mute messages or even (if you two are not following each other online) change your account settings to only recieve messages from mutuals.
if this is over messages then mute him, or firmly make him aware you are not interested in engaging in conversation and will contact him if you change your mind.
blocking him would not be too harsh
Do not engage with him. He bagged himself an 18 year old, and then leeched off of her until she was old enough to know better and walk away.
You are not his mother – this is NOT abandonment.
Bigger things (;
Be upfront and say that you want a no contact breakup so that you can both move on. Then block him.
Send him to 7cups.com – he can talk to someone online instead of you. Tell him you’re not abandoning him but no contact is best for the both of you. He can talk to someone there about it, it’s honestly such a good service.
I think it’s okay to walk away without a dramatic goodbye…aldo you waited , you hoped and still nothing changed that’s not abandonment that’s he’s being held accountable for the life he chose not to build also If someone loves you they show up. You did and he didn’t….
2 years of supporting someone as you work your derriere off and they do what? Sleep in, play video games, raid the fridge?
You’re not his Mother.
Clearly, you’ve got the patience of a saint.
Treat yourself to a break away somewhere nice and with freinds if possible.
Being at home is only serving as a reminder. Time away from all that has built up to this will allow you to free up your thoughts and bring clarity. Perhaps its sensible to send him to Coventry for now and once you return you may feel better prepared for making your position crystal clear.
Yes you abandone someone with selfish, freeloading, unhelpful behavior. Block this guy never look back.
You dodged a bullet.
Enjoy your new life, find your compatable forever partner who shows respect and responsibilities and share your life and love with someone who wants the best for you and you for them. Turn your back to your past and look forward.