I’m asking because social media has definitely warped people beliefs and expectations. It has made men more lustful and women more materialistic. As of right now I can’t see any point to dating
What makes dating feel worth it to you guys if at all
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Presumably if you need companionship in your life that friends, family, and pets can’t fill, then I suppose that makes it worth it.
You ever thought the idea of men being more lustful and women being more materialistic is just an outcome of social media and not many people are like that in the real world.
Uhm , social media isn’t real life , there are definitely benefits to dating outside of just sex and money , don’t ask me what those are though as am not interested in dating either 😭
Reddit is not real life. The thing with the internet is it allows you to make way more connections with people than you normally would. How many people, irl, would you talk to in a day ? What, maybe 100 ? On reddit, this subreddit for example, there are 7M members and let’s say 1,000 will read this post ?
We are not connecting with more people than ever and some of then simply are lunatics, some are trolls, some are sane.
So when you read about dating here, it’s the extreme that you are reading about. It’s the equivalent of a Jew and a Palestinian living in a house and discussing topics.
Dating, when not on the apps, is quite pleasent. It’s nice, it’s a nice way of spending an evening. There is always something to learn from somebody, no matter how foreign to you they can be. On the apps ? It’s just beyond brutal. A total waste of time.
Well I’m too ugly to be in the fuck n duck category of people, so it’s finding someone who you enjoy spending time with and be intimate with
to know that you might have found the person with whom you wish that time would pass more slowly and to realize that unfortunately the opposite is the case.
Dating: hunting for a wife.
If you are not interested in finding a wife, don’t date.
Cos even if it ends in shambles, each time you date someone new, there’s a chance that person may become someone you cherish more than anything. That chance is what makes me keep going anyways
The emotional connection and honestly the good sex
It doesn’t feel remotely worth it, no.
companionship. Not very complicated.
I am married, but if I were single I can answer this easily. I don’t like to be alone, and I am a one-person guy. I don’t have any interest in friends or groups. I socialize enough at work and through my wife’s friends. I was raised in a very quite and simple neighborhood and I enjoy having the same. While I am friendly and “outgoing” at gatherings, I do not enjoy them.
I prefer to have my one person who I can talk to, spend time with, and love on. I’ve always been this way and my wife compliments that. For me, I do not enjoy being totally alone, especially since I don’t have a social network to supplement that with.
I enjoy being able to have someone with me to share moments with, bounce ideas off of, cook for, express my gratitude for, to spend money on (my outward love language), or to be loved by (my inward love language).
I get where you’re coming from, which is why I suggest seeking out people irl or surrounding yourself with people that see the BS too. There are people out there that would make dating worth it. You just have to align yourself to it.
Stopped trying long ago
That’s she did enjoy it
It’s not done either of those things.
For me, the connection with another person, specifically in the bedroom would make casual dating worth it for me. If I’m looking for something serious, then what I’m wanting is obviously worth it
Hesitant!
Spiritual Connection
Social media is fake my guy, go out an talk to real women. I may be single but its not because it isnt worth it, I just suck at people in general.
The other person
I realized it was worth it for me the moment a girl made a PowerPoint about how much she appreciates me on my birthday and I was decided at that moment that I should make her my girlfriend (and I did)
It was probably the nicest thing anyone has ever done. It was long too. Very thought out and heartfelt
The chance at having sex
Nothing.
Traditional values and actually caring about their partners. Thankfully Vietnam exists
My dating is making new friends and having fun with the new people I meet. I stay clear of online dating. Ive been doing well just being out where people are ready to socialize. Change your expectations, if you cant even hold a conversation with someone what makes you think you are getting any at all.
You’re jumping to an awful lot of conclusions about an awful lot of people.
I enjoy dating because I like meeting people and making fun plans, and most of the time it’s enjoyable unless we’re a horrible match or my date is just very dull.
I also don’t enjoy dating sometimes because it’s a lot of effort. It’s okay to enjoy dating one week and not enjoy it the next. I take breaks all the time, either because I want to get to know one person or because I’m just tired.
If you don’t see a point to it then don’t date, but don’t use your lack or purpose in dating as an excuse to suggest all men are more listful and all women are more materialistic. Not only are you mistaken but you’ll just come off like a dick.
In my experience it’s mostly women who’ve lost self-awareness and became more toxic.
But to answer you question – finding someone who makes you feel loved, cared for and happy is worth any effort. Unfortunatelly a rising women can’t offer anything besides sex and completely lack emotional intelligence.
The internet and Internet personalities do not reflect reality. I continue to have faith in dating simply because dating leads to a relationship and ultimately I want to be in a relationship.