My(28F) husband (30M) and I are having our first son later this year and he is due on labor day. I had my baby shower last weekend and it was a great event, but there was one interaction that I may be the asshole for.
My husband showed up for the gift portion. When opening gifts, one gift was a baby care package and a onesie to the rival college my husband and I went to. It was given to us by a friend who went to said rival college. My Husband has a pretty deep hatred of the rival school. I follow along with that since fall saturdays at football games is our thing.
When we opened this gift, my husband audibly said “oh”. I could see the “what the fuck ” look on his face. I said, I hope a gift receipt came with this! I thought it was a gag gift. My friend says “oh no gift receipt”. I was like, oh well, “Sons Name” is never going to wear this. Then moved on to the next gift. Little awkward, but whatever. After the party, my husband threw the onesie in the trash.
A few days ago someone asked what happened with the onesie and I told them. Well that made it around to a few people and I get a text from the friend saying that i’m a huge asshole. I should have just given it back to her. I was like thats what the gift receipt comment was for and told her my husband would never allow our son to be dressed like that. I never thought it was supposed to be a legitimate gift, but apparently it was. AITA?
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My(28F) husband (30M) and I are having our first son later this year and he is due on labor day. I had my baby shower last weekend and it was a great event, but there was one interaction that I may be the asshole for.
My husband showed up for the gift portion. When opening gifts, one gift was a baby care package and a onesie to the rival college my husband and I went to. It was given to us by a friend who went to said rival college. My Husband has a pretty deep hatred of the rival school. I follow along with that since fall saturdays at football games is our thing.
When we opened this gift, my husband audibly said “oh”. I could see the “what the fuck ” look on his face. I said, I hope a gift receipt came with this! I thought it was a gag gift. My friend says “oh no gift receipt”. I was like, oh well, “Sons Name” is never going to wear this. Then moved on to the next gift. Little awkward, but whatever. After the party, my husband threw the onesie in the trash.
A few days ago someone asked what happened with the onesie and I told them. Well that made it around to a few people and I get a text from the friend saying that i’m a huge asshole. I should have just given it back to her. I was like thats what the gift receipt comment was for and told her my husband would never allow our son to be dressed like that. I never thought it was supposed to be a legitimate gift, but apparently it was. AITA?
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Light NTA. I think the issue was you publicly said you threw it in the trash. Even if it was a gag gift (which it sounds like it legit was) there are better responses that keep the mood light. The gift receipt comment was funny, the immediate throwing away of a gift wasn’t. Seems like your husband needs to learn how to take a joke. He’s 30 and still takes college rivalries that seriously??
NTA. Assuming she knew about the rivalry right?
YTA. You could have donated that to Goodwill or a shelter instead of throwing it in the trash.
My aunt (technically my cousin but age gap so she was “aunt”)worked for a battered woman’s shelter, and I can promise you that almost any woman (or man) fleeing an abusive relationship with a baby would be eternally grateful for a brand new onesie, no matter what it said on it.
NTA – Your baby, your rules. A friendly rivalry should be understood all in good fun.
ESH
> My Husband has a pretty deep hatred of the rival school.
You two are about to raise a child. Grow up.
ESH. That was a rude af thing to do even to a gag gift, and your friend should probably have gotten a different gift rather than merch for a school neither of you went to
An AH? Eh. Idk that I’d go that far. But immature and rude? Yes, incredibly. Grow up. Someone spent time attending your shower and money on a gift.
The mature thing to do would be to smile politely and say “thank you,” then take a silly picture of the baby with it. Don’t ruin a friendship over something so ridiculous.
Your husband is TA!
You’re technically NTA, asking for gift receipts. I think it’s pretty normal, especially if there’s a gift that you’re not wanting. However, I think it’s pretty shitty that your husband threw it away when you could’ve given it to a woman’s shelter or donated it. But also this reaction of arrival colleges is kind of concerning.
YTA for being rude and tacky. You and your husband sound really immature. You could’ve just regifted or donated.
YTA. You didn’t want the gift, but hung onto it long enough to throw away. Why not give it back at that moment? Like, “thank you for the thought, but this team plays against ours. Are you able to return it?” Just because they don’t have a gift receipt doesn’t they’re not able to get their money back for it. Going around telling people you threw their gift the trash is just a dick move.
Like I’ve told my kids, “You get what you get, and don’t throw a fit.”
The fact that that you tossed it in the trash and then told people makes you the AH.
Perhaps an odd choice of gift but your response was childish.
If it was Ohio state my husband would wipe his ass with it first before throwing it out 🤣🤣🤣
Nta. Could it have been handled better? Sure. Just say nothing and donate or toss discreetly or trade on fb marketplace.
But I also think it’s distasteful to gift a rival teams apparel because there is no way I’d be putting my kid in buckeyes shit.
I one time DID buy my husband an OS sweatshirt. He glared at me, did not laugh, and then took the gift receipt to exchange it for a wolverines sweatshirt. That’s the way a gag is done!
YTA. Asking about a gift receipt in front of everyone as you’re opening the gift? That’s just tacky. And I know little children better able to hide their disappointment in a gift than your husband.
Plus, you threw it out instead of donating which is wasteful.
Sounds like your friend was making a playful-ribbing joke and you guys took it to a weird, awkward place.
YTA
Well your husband is and rude. It was a gift. By this point in your life you should not know to be gracious. You do not deserve a gift simply because you chose to have a baby. It was given to you out of kindness.
One more thing, I hope your son goes to the rival school.
Yta… oh my… just common courtesy and the golden rule covers this. Could it have hurt to take a picture of the kid in the onesie and then share it with them and even give it back to them. I can almost guarantee your kid won’t ever get another gift from them. Also, the other people who know you throw away gifts you don’t feel acceptable will be rethinking if they can budget money to spend on a family who doesn’t appreciate their gift. I live in the Deep South where rivalries go back generations. I get it. But is it more important than a friendship?
So the main gift was the baby care package and the onesie seems like it was just a silly thing… if the only gift was rival sports stuff I would just be like well that’s weird, just like getting any theme that you know someone won’t like, but if it’s just the onesie as an add on gift it’s no big deal.
ESH the friend probably shouldn’t have gifted it, but there was little need for that reaction.
Why throw it out when it could have been donated, also when you start running low on onsies you’ll be glad of a spare!
I would have kept it till your baby arrived put it on the wee one the put some yoghurt on it and sent a pic saying “Oh no the onsie made him sick 😂”
On a side note what will happen if he ends up at said college?
YTA. You could have just donated it. I mean, throwing it in the trash is pretty gross and wasteful. Telling people you threw it in the trash is the cherry on top of this AH sundae.
I hope your son eventually goes to that school.
Since the judgement is about the gift receipt I have to say NTA.
However, the way you and your husband dealt with the whole situation definitely made you assholes. Nobody should be that rabid about a team or a school that they get so angry about a gift. He’s an asshole for throwing it out and you’re an asshole for not rescuing it and giving it back or donating it. I hope your kid doesn’t end up like you guys.
YTA
You received a gift you didn’t like ? Smile, say thank you and donate it later or throw it away. There was no need to embarrass your guest in front of everyone, that’s rude and ungrateful behavior.
Throwing out a perfectly good onesie because it’s the wrong color and has the wrong letter on it.
I’d understand if it was one of those ones with an offensive slogan on it that sexualizes the baby, but like others have said, you could have donated it. Or your husband could have enjoyed seeing your baby vomit and poop on it, which he’s bound to do, because he’s a baby.
YTA.
NTA. What on earth?! Was there any other gift involved? Diapers for a diaper raffle? A secondary gift, or something else? It seems really rude to attend someone’s celebration—enjoy their food, drinks, and company—and then give a gift that’s just a rivalry team item.
Why would she expect it back? No one expects the third baby bouncer you received to be returned; it’s understood that gifts are yours to keep or exchange—it’s proper social etiquette.
Sure, the item could have been donated, but ultimately, it’s still NTA because once you receive a gift, it’s yours.
YTA Sports nuts are almost as bad as pet nutters. Someone bought you a gift and you threw it in the trash. Then you told people that you did it. You and your husband are immature assholes, just like your hubbys buddy that bought it in the first place. Truly ESH.
YTA and you’re fucking weird with how you handled the situation. You could have donated it, or used it when the kid is having major blowouts. But instead you did whatever that social-suicide was.
Yall are assholes.
Its a college. You are no longer attending said college. Grow up and laugh at the gift, and use the onesie.
Yeah YTA. Just say thanks, and don’t tell anyone when you get rid of it, donate it, stick in in a drawer until the baby “got too big” for it. And to say kid will never wear this in front of everyone is pretty rude. Just don’t wear the shirt.
You could have just saved it for when baby is having running poos. Then baby would literally shit on the rival school.
AH! Gifts from friends are still gifts. Say thank you, move on and never tell anyone what you did with it. Put it away, donate it, regift it! Just keep that ish to yourself! Your friend was misguided in their gift attempt. We all make this mistake. Be prepared for when you give them a gift. They will publicly desecrate it! Just as you did their gift!
You’re NTA for asking for a gift receipt however you YTA for everything you said.
As a huuuuge football fan you and your husband ATA.
YTA. Babies go through an inordinate amount of clothing due to spit up and poop. Throwing the gift away was absurd. You may not have attended the college, but you should have still shown respect to the gift giver. You were obnoxious and wrong.
YTA. Rude and tacky.
ESH.
28 & 30 is way too goddamn old for this crap. It’s a dumb gift and your reaction is dumber. If you’re old enough to be making babies and going to showers you’re all old enough to act right.
The good news is you’ll probably be too occupied with parenthood to worry about this nonsense any further once baby arrives. Drop the subject, anyone who refuses to move on gets dropped as a friend for having poor priorities.
YTA. Learn to laugh, hell what an opportunity to send your friend a photo of you using the onesie to clean up a poop explosion. Your friend at the very least gifted you a rag but mostly took the time to do something nice for you and attempted to capitalise on your shared interest. You threw it away, rude. I hope your team has an average season.
Getting angry over a school is something…
YTA. You and your husband are rude hosts. You ever heard of being gracious? Absolute trash behaviour
you’re all A’holes!
NTA for asking for a gift receipt. Definitely the AH for throwing it in the trash and then telling people it was thrown in the trash.
🙄🙄🙄🙄 it’s college, you’re both too old to act this way over a silly gift. You could have donated it if you really didn’t wanna wear it, but it’s a fucking onsie. The kid is gonna outgrow it in a couple of months. That’s just wasteful honestly.
YTA. At least donate it.
This is just silly overreaction! Good grief we are talking about clothes that won’t last weeks. It was a joke, albeit in bad taste, no reason to go nc or hate the guy forever!
YTA. You and your husband should not be reproducing. Making a college rivalry your entire personality is ridiculous. You could have said thanks and tucked it away, donated it or anything other than being a rude AH.
Wow, you trashed it? Yes, you’re entitled arseholes. It could have been donated, passed on to someone else. You both acted like spoiled, entitled shits. I hope you bring your child up to be more thankful & gracious.
So many other ways this could have been handled but I think you and your husband are lowkey AH’s.
“Deep hatred” over a damn school is wild. I’m a sports fan and I love my team, but to have deep hatred over another team?
Asking out loud if it came with a gift receipt, while not necessarily rude but if there is this deep hatred for the school, im guessing the tone used was rude.
If you were ok with saying out loud that your son would never be wearing it, the right thing to have done was ask if they wanted it back. Personally, I would have just pulled her aside and thanked her and then told her that because of the rivalry with that school my son won’t be wearing it and asked her if she wanted it back.
Then you throw out the gift and tell people you threw it out. While it was given to you and you can do as you please with it, imagine how you’d feel if someone did that to a gift you gave.
Again personally, I would have kept it and made something on it to mock the team. The stories you could tell your son about that time when…
I am also gonna bet you and hubby will influence your son on what team he is going to like, and I’m lowkey hoping he likes the rivalry team! Your hubby gonna throw your kid away?! 😂😂😂
I’ve threatened to give my cousin’s daughter Red Sox gear because my cousin’s a huge Yankees fan.
I didn’t actually do it. And if I did, I’d expect to get a video of him burning it in his backyard.
This friend of yours knew what they were doing. NTA.
YTA. How old are you? 12?
Just say thank you and donate it if you can’t stand owning clothing that has your GASP rival schools logo on it.
Grow up.
People get pretty intense about college ball. If your friend knows your husbands sports team and got you the onesie anyway nta
YTA and pathetic that a college sports rivalry means that much that you’d trash clothing a kid in need could use. Grow up, you and your husband are insufferable.
The fuck do people give a shit about rival schools. Shit is tacky. ESH. Especially your childish husband get pissy over a damn school.
I would have thought it was a gag gift as well, since those types of college or sports rivalries are usually well known among friends. For example, I knew people who would get University of Texas Longhorn gifts for Texas A&M Aggies (huge rivalry in Texas) and the reverse because of the rivalry.
ESH since your friends shouldn’t have gifted the onesie as anything but a gag and should of expected the reaction, but your husband took it way too seriously. The better thing to do would have been to shove the onesie in a drawer for a few months and then give it away.
Wait….the two of you went to college? Are you sure you’re not still in hs?
INFO: Why do you think insulting a gift and throwing it away and letting everyone know that what you did would have been applauded and/or laughed at?
YTA. A gift is a gift and trashing it then telling people about it is in very poor taste.
ESH. Sports rivalries are real and if this person is a close enough friend to come to the shower then they would know that you guys probably take that stuff very seriously. I’m a huge Red Sox fan if somebody gave me a Yankees jersey I would never put it on my child. That said, I also wouldn’t be rude to my friend. I would just chuckle and laugh at the gag and be like, “Oh nooooooo!” and carry on with my day. If my friend asked what happened to it, I’d say I love you but you know I’m not putting my baby in Yankees gear. I also wouldn’t throw it out. I’d either give it back to my friend or donate it.
If your husband isn’t mature enough to be graceful and let this run off his back, fatherhood is going to be a rude awakening.
But congrats on your son!!
YTA what a tacky low class reaction to a gift. I can’t imagine how hurt your friend was. Not to mention the waste of money. You threw it out? Wow!…just wow.
Not only are you and your husband assholes, you’re pathetic. Who cares this much about your college rival past graduation? What a privileged life you two lead if you care about something so stupid and inconsequential that you throw away a piece of clothing- you could have donated it. You could have kept your mouth shut instead of asking for a gift receipt. You two just lost several friends over something you should have stopped caring about at 22 years old.
YTA
It was a joke gift. Like he knew it was the rival college. But no one is supposed to hate another school – it’s all silly nonsense and we’re adults and we’re past that.
There were many things I received for my firstborn that weren’t my style of even offended me (like little man gets all the ladies nonsense), but guess what – he wore every outfit. Not because I was being kind to the gift giver, but because babies get reflux or blowouts and it doesn’t hurt to have spare onesies for emergencies. Then you can always donate onward when you’re done having kids. Throwing things in the trash is wasteful.
I had a boss pull this kind of gag gift on me once. I ended up telling them I had to rehome their gift. I had a SIL who was a fan of the other team and I gave it to her.
NTA, although it would have been nice for you to donate it instead of throwing it away.
Yeah, YTA. It was a solid gift even if meant in jest.
“Stick in the mud” is the nicest thing I can think of calling you guys.
As someone how lives in a place with deep team rivalry, the gift in itself was supposed to be a stab. If i was to do the same to some people i know i would expect them to get rid of it.
YTA. You could have re-gifted or donated the onesie instead of putting it in the trash. And you never should have asked for a gift receipt. That’s just tacky.
I’m going with ESH.
Guest sucks for giving a gift that they knew would be hated, unwanted, and unused, with no gift receipt. The best outcome was it would be donated, meaning OP would receive no gift.
OP sucks for not just taking the joke as a laugh and say something like, oh, is this a burp cloth? Son is gonna yak all over this, haha!
Husband sucks for throwing away something that could’ve been donated and appreciated by someone else.
I’m a diehard fan of my university too, and have gotten a handful of these gag gifts over the years– it comes with the territory of being a fan. How you handle it says a lot about you. Everyone in this situation needs to grow up.
FFS. Onesies get puked on, covered in crap, all sorts. You need loads of them. YTA for giving so much of a crap about ‘rival school’ bullshit. How incredibly wasteful. If it really matters (which it shouldn’t) donate the thing, at least.
Is this what all Americans are like
It always blows my mind that people care about sports rivalries that much, let alone college sports. YTA and tacky too.
Yta Jesus Christ, you are mean and fucked up! Imagine throwing someone’s present out over a sports team? Wow. Wow wow wow. The thrown away onesie isn’t the only thing here that’s trashy.
NTA
Once a gift is given, the recipient can do whatever they want with it.
She knew your husband would hate that gift.
She was deliberately rude, and she doesn’t get to complain that her gift wasn’t ~returned to her~.
YTA- could have at least donated the onesie
NTA – The amount of high-and-mighty “sports are bad” idiots on here will drown out that your friend is the AH for treating a gag gift seriously
ESH.
I can’t imagine being a whole ass adult with a baby on the way and giving this much of a shit about people throwing a ball around.
I have a certain sport and team that I love, but not to this crazy ass extent lmao. Dumb.
ESH. You could have drawn a red circle and line through the school name/logo in fabric marker and taken a picture of your baby in it. Just to keep the joke going. You could have donated it. They’re at fault for caring about what happened to the gift after they gave it to you. None of you guys have a sense of humor about the rivalry, so everyone sucks. I went to UC Berkeley and would never have put my kid in Stanford gear, but I would have laughed and done something to it to my liking.
YTA. Your husband is an AH.
A bunch of immature people.
Yikes, with this level of maturity from both of you, you should not be having a baby.
I hope that’s the last baby shower you ever get.
NTA – I think throwing it away is an overreaction and donating it would have been the better play. If someone gave that rival onesie with full knowledge of your husband’s feelings then it wasn’t really given in good faith and what you do with it later really shouldn’t matter
Pretty much YTA.. This is where being competitive with schools, sports, etc. crosses the line. It’s okay to have some rivalry, but when someone takes the time and spends money to attend your baby shower. Show some appreciation.
Time to grow up and realize what’s truly important in life!
Jesus. Just don’t use it. What a pile of absolute immature children you are. YTA. Grow up.
Umm, what if your child grows up and the rival school is the best one for their needs? My brother attended the “rival” school to the one that my father and I attended. It was the best fit for him, and nobody took issue with it. Ya’ll need to grow up and find the maturity to parent your child appropriately.
Grow up.
Honestly ESH. Everyone. It’s called being gracious even in the face of an unwanted gift. Then you certainly don’t talk about what you do with it.
YTA. Your kid is going to barf over everything they wear anyways, this was a strong overreaction to a gag gift. Goodwill would have been a better option than trash, at minimum
YTA you both could’ve just smiled and said thanks. You don’t have to put it on the child. What a ridiculous thing to feel so strongly about
YTA
That was not a gracious action. It was a gift! Your son isn’t the star QB at Rival U. Say thank you, take the gift and hide it in the back of the onesie drawer.
NTA. Your friend is a bit of one for not giving you any other present, otherwise I’d say no assholes here. It would have been better to donate, but OF COURSE your kid is never gonna wear that. It really does sound like a gag gift, and it’s weird that it wasn’t.
I think people are being precious about the wastefulness cause they don’t understand that your kid would NEVER EVER wear it.
It would have been funnier to use it as a burp cloth tho.
YTA. Such a rude, tacky, overreactive response to that gift. Weird that you would even think otherwise.
Seriously? The college you went to is your entire personality? Babies don’t give a fuck what they’re wearing and you’re gonna end up having a bunch of onesies get ruined so either way you would’ve tossed it anyways but youre just being a brat and threw away a perfectly good onesie. YTA
How old are you and your husband? I’m asking because you both acted like silly teenagers. you carry a ridiculous college grudge to the point of insulting a friend’s gift. Had you not acted as you did no one would have asked what you did with the onesie.
YTA. Grow up! You and your husband are acting like spoiled children.
What if your child doesn’t like that school or OMG does like college football at all?
I know of people who check college football schedules before planning parties and even weddings. I’ve heard of TVs at events that conflict with important games. As a Georgia Tech and Clemson alumna, if someone gave me a Georgia bulldogs gift I’d smile, thank them, and donate or give it away later. Maybe I’d wear it long enough to take a photo.
YTA. Regardless of what you both thought of the gift you need to be polite. This friend got up, got ready, wrapped a gift and went to your baby shower. You owe her a sincere apology.
I cannot believe you are about to raise a child with this man.
YTA It’s gonna be covered in spit up and baby shit anyway — as long as it doesn’t say something offensive who cares what’s written on it.
ESH. Asking for a gift receipt wasn’t the asshole move, but throwing it out was. You weren’t the first AH in the scenario, they were.
You only buy a sport-themed gift if you know it’s either going to be loved or hated. Even the friend who asked what happened to it afterwards was being a shit-stirrer and only asked so they could report back.
While the right thing to do would have been to just hand the item back to them after the party, the real right thing would have been for them to never buy it in the first place.
YTA. Open said gift, say thank you and move along. Put said gift in a donation box at the goodwill. No need for all the comments and hostility at what’s supposed to be a joyful moment.
ESH. The school’s not going to bless you for defending its honor in this situation. The rival school gift was tacky, especially since it wasn’t a gag gift.
ESH – the gift receipt comment sounds clumsy and harsher than intended. Your husband seething with rage is dramatic. People who give gag gifts or known rival teams and then get pouty when you don’t love it as much as them are cringey at best. Say thank you, move on, let the kid puke on the free onesie.
YTA asking for a gift receipt is one thing, but you were a jerk about it. Be gracious, say thank you, don’t announce that you will never use it in a room full of people and make it awkward for everyone, and if you really won’t use it even as a backup outfit then donate it and move on.
YTA. It’s a onesie for God’s sake, just say thank you and then donate it. Were you both raised by wolves? At your big age, you’re this tied to your college football team?
You now have YTA comments at 175 and yet you are still swapping back. All with a fake throwaway account. I’m guessing you’re a small minded child who thought this was fun. Even worse, you are a 28 adult female who thinks this was appropriate behavior. Give it a rest and just take this post down. Lick your wounds and do a modicum of soul searching.
YTA and weird. It’s a stupid college football team and your friend meant no harm.
YTA you’re both childish and immature. Grow up
NTA. I live in a family that loves our sports and I would never allow my kid to wear any team gear.i just wouldn’t. Its nice clothes sure but screw it, your friend knew what they were doing when it was bought
I’m always scratching my head over the obsession so many Americans have over sports. Yes you support your team but what is with basing your entire identity around a team and then having deep seated hatred for another team… And it’s a baby onesie they’re gonna piss puke poop in it and it’s gonna be useless after a few weeks cuz they’ll grow out of it. You guys need to grow up sheesh.
YTA – What a bunch of juvenile bullshit. Your unborn child is more mature than you. You could have a laugh every time your kid soils that onesie, even send your friend a picture of it. You could have fun with it but you’re both too humorless and pathetic. How can you stand to be “friends” with someone who went to that school if you’re so biased against it that you won’t let your baby shit in a onesie with that schools name on it? People like you are a joke.
YTA. You say thank you, and you move on. I received lots of pink and frilly things for my daughter’s shower. I hate pink and frilly. I thanked the gift giver. When baby was born, the gift giver was sent a photo of baby in the outfit, then it was donated. No hard feelings. It’s a f’n gift. Say thanks and move on.
YTA for how you handled this. You should have kept your mouth shut about where it ended up. You turned this into an unnecessary drama.
Frankly, you both missed an opportunity to have your kid throw or spit up all over that shirt. It could have been his feeding shirt, no bib needed.
I disagree with mostly everyone.
NTA in my opinion.
The point of a gift receipt is to give it with a gift. I think the person who gave it to you was looking for that reaction. What kind of “friend” would knowingly cause issues? A real friend would’ve got the same care package featuring the school you are a fan of.
I know deep rivalries that will never die.
I do agree that your husband shouldn’t have thrown it away. There are places you can give lightly used clothes to for cash, that’s what I would’ve done.
100% YTA.
ESH, you and your husband are assholes, but so was your friend. They obviously knew your deep hatred of the team 🙄 so why bother with the gift? But throwing it away, was also an AH move.
NTA
I will never understand the pettiness that comes out of diehard sports fans. She gave it as a joke and that’s childish behavior. I could maybe see her giving a gag gift to your husband for his birthday or something but not your baby. Your husband’s reaction was over the top childish. All that said I don’t think asking for a gift receipt was out of line given the fact that the gift was not genuine.
YTA you threw something away that an infants need could have worn? Seriously? You should have handed it back to the giver which is also rude but rude doesn’t seem to bother you or donated it.
The best thing your friend group could do for themselves is to ask for their gifts back and let you buy your own baby stuff. I would have done it the second you asked for a gift receipt and then made a nasty comment.
Is your husband a child? Rival college bullshit? Both are AH. Both of you are petty and classless. You deserve each other
YTA. That’s so tacky
YTA….First of all, you accept a gift graciously. Second, you do not tell someone you threw their gift away. You could have said it was in a drawer with his other things. Quite frankly, you acted like an entitled beyotch as well as your husband. I sincerely hope your actions were worth the cost of the friendship to you, because it will never be the same, as well as others who will give you the side eye.
ESH. If you’re married and you’re having a baby, you’re far too old to care about college sports. You could’ve been more gracious upon receiving the gift, too. Gift giver was an arse for trying to wind you up.
YTA. Grow up and learn some manners while you’re at it.
INFO : first I need to know the two schools and which side you fall on.
Just kidding! YTA! Time to grow up!
YTA. both you and your husband. grow tf up.
YTA and it’s frankly crazy you even have to ask. A “pretty deep hatred” of a fucking sports team? Grow up. Who raised you that you would throw away a perfectly good gift, and brag about doing it, instead of just donating it and shutting up.
Not just an ass hole but an ungrateful one. You just should have said thank you and moved on.
You two sound fun.
YTA. It was a gift and you are remarkably ungrateful. Try to learn how to be gracious.
INFO: What is the rival college?
YTA – I’m sure the gift was meant in good fun. You smile, you laugh, you put the item in a drawer and forget about it until your child outgrows it at which time you trash or donate. It’s a onesie, not a hate crime.
Sorry, but you and your husband are both rude and immature.
And, when your baby begins to have blowouts that go up to his or her hairline, you’re going to want all the clean onesies you can find. You won’t even care what they say…
NTA. My folks have a fun rivalry w one of my dad’s friends who went to their rival college. We treat it like fun but BOTH sides have thrown away silly things with the other team’s logo
Your friend is right, YTA. Either A) Your friend didn’t know you didn’t like the school. B) It was a lighthearted joke that you took the wrong way.
You would know if you had studied their reaction to you opening it and saying there isn’t a receipt. Because that’s what normal people do. You open the gift then you look at who gave it to you and you THANK THEM.
And if anything, you should have given it back or donated it. You don’t just throw stuff away because it’s not your style. That is disgustingly wasteful
ESH
If the friend knew how much you legitimately hated the other team, they could have made sure to give the gift receipt/make it clear it was a joke gift
If they weren’t aware, you should have clearly explained that before throwing it out
YTA – there are way more gracious ways to behave than this. Get a grip.
Are you sure you’re ready to be parents? Because that was really immature.
Soft YTA because as someone who wouldn’t dress my kiddos in rival school’s gear, I would have just laughed, written a thank you card with ‘Go My School’ and regifted the item.
I cannot believe I’m now aware someone this immature and tacky is getting to have a baby while I’m painfully waiting and working hard to be in a good financial place before we start building our family. YTA. Do better and be a good example for your child on how normal people exist in society.
ESH. It was clearly a joke gift which isnt great for a baby shower, but there were so many better ways to take it with grace. At the very least, you could have donated it so some other mother could use it for her kid.
NTA. As an avid sports fan and mom of two, her gift was petty and deserved a petty response back. I would have texted her after the fact and just said our son is not going wear this so do you want to return it or I’m going to donate it.
YTA etc etc
Which schools?
ESH. The friend knew what they were doing. You didn’t have to overreact by saying you hope there is a gift receipt in front of everyone. Your husband didn’t have to throw it out- especially once you realized it wasn’t a joke. They have pride in the school just like your husband has pride in his. Your kid doesn’t have to wear it. In fact, throw it out/don’t throw it out, doesn’t matter. What matters is that you both acted like children and now are annoyed bc people are calling you out on it.
Granted, those people are also acting like children, so what do I know…
Uh…. yeah YTA. Be grateful your friend even got you something.
The friend is an asshole for wasting clothes but you’re so far over the line that I’m going YTA. You can’t have fun and dress the baby up in this once as a joke? If you can’t do that, approach the person after to ask about a receipt or give it back.
I think anyone who is from an area of the country where college football isn’t big or from another country besides the US will think you’re an asshole but being that I’m from Georgia and the only acceptable football onesie for my baby would be a UGA onesie, I get it. Honestly if someone got my baby an Alabama onesie my husband would’ve been shit talking right then and there as well as my entire family lol it’s just part of the culture. My step dad is from Ohio and we almost didn’t let my son go to my moms all of last football season because he kept threatening to put him in a Buckeyes shirt 😂
You and your husband are both assholes.
You will go through onesies like tissues. Who cares if it has a rival school on it? Are you and your husband old enough to have children? That’s just stupid and petty.
The way you acted about it made it even worse. First asking for a gift receipt. It’s a freaking onesie. And it’s a gift. Learn some grace.
Then throwing it out. That’s just trashy. You couldn’t donate it?
Gross and ungrateful all around.
You really vary a school rivalry
Yikes on mofo bikes. YTA in so many ways.
Good luck with your friendships – I would go on an apology tour.
YTA.
It’s a GIFT. It doesn’t matter if it’s ugly, if it’s useless, if you’re never gonna wear it or if you hated it. You smile and say thank you. No one HAS to give people things (sure, it’s a baby shower, and it’s rude to show up without at least a pack of diapers, but the point remains: gifts are not something people are entitled to). The fact that it was a care package makes it worse: someone actually put a lot of time, thought, effort and money into it, not to mention love.
It’s immature to feel that level of hatred towards an institution that you’ll tell the person giving the gift that your son will never wear it and then to actually throw it in the trash when you could have donated it…
You and your husband were extremely rude and entitled, and throwing it in the trash after telling people you did it was just the icing on the shitcake.
You could have just donated it instead of wasting it.
YTA. Just chuckle about it and move on. A family got me a straight out of xxxx location that my location absolutely looks down on. I said thank you and put it in the back of a drawer knowing I would rather leave my kid naked than put it on. You know who didn’t know that? The gift giver
ESH. I’m in the Midwest and rivalries in Big Ten country get as heated as the SEC south. If you’re not a sports fan, you don’t get it. I doubt the gifter didn’t know where parents went to school and knew it would piss dad off. But y’all could’ve kept to yourselves, donated it, literally anything but trashed it and made it known you did so. I will say none of my friends would dare give each other rival sports gear. We would know the recipient would never use it, gag or not. The only exception would be a cheap thrift for white elephant or something. If I did purchase something of a rival school for a friend, I’d expect it to never be used. It’s as obvious as buying a vegetarian friend a burger. It’s useless.
It was a jerk move on your friend’s part. They knew you wouldn’t want that so why waste money buying it?
Yta. Are you sure you are mature enough to be having a baby?
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YTA and money grubbing. I can’t imagine saying such a thing. Two. Are you that desperate for $10, you couldn’t just donate it to a homeless selter/Goodwill?
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All the sports nuts in my world do things like this with their friends, it’s just cute and silly. Very weird thing to be offended or upset about imo.
ESH
First throwing it in the trash is abysmal behavior. You could have donated it. I’m sure there are many struggling parents to be who could have done with a onesie and care package. Or, as she said, give it back to her.
She clearly sucks for giving you something she knows you wouldn’t use.
WOW, an enthusiastic YTA from me.
YTA. And you and your husband are not mature enough to have a child. Poor kid.
Hi!! Most guests include a gift receipt.
If you know who gifted your baby with this present, just give her a call, say it was a duplicate, and ask where she bought it so you can get in store credit for more receiving blankets/cloths/bibs/onesies/etc..
YTA. Did you really have to ask?
YTA geez you could have at least used it as a burp cloth or something. Ever heard the term “beggars can’t be choosers”? Well when you have a baby shower and are asking for gifts, yes there is a registry, but you should still be appreciative that the person bought something for your child. Even if you don’t like it. College merch isn’t cheap! That onesie was probably like $30. You should at least offer to pay the friend back for the gift you trashed and apologize for acting so immaturely.