My nephew had his birthday party on the 4th, and we had a bunch of people over. They ordered pizza, but I didn’t want any. I saw a cantaloupe on the counter that my sister said she was going to throw away because it was bruised. I suggested we check inside first, so I opened it, it looked fine to me, so I decided to eat some.
It tasted good initially, but there was a slightly bitter aftertaste. Still, it seemed okay overall, so I offered it to others. Some guests declined (including my sister), but others tried it and said it tasted fine, so we kept eating.
My sister, however, got visibly annoyed and seemed offended. She later called me a jerk for eating the cantaloupe and offering it to others after she’d decided to throw it away. To be clear, the cantaloupe ended up tasting sweeter after it sat on the counter for a bit, with the bitter taste going away entirely.
Was I wrong for eating fruit she intended to toss and offering it to guests?
Update: Forgot to mention that I got cantaloupe juice everywhere and when I my sister went to pump this morning her pumps all had cantaloupe juice on them and were so sticky. She told me this today in text. I say I made sure to clean.
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My nephew had his birthday party on the 4th, and we had a bunch of people over. They ordered pizza, but I didn’t want any. I saw a cantaloupe on the counter that my sister said she was going to throw away because it was bruised. I suggested we check inside first, so I opened it, it looked fine to me, so I decided to eat some.
It tasted good initially, but there was a slightly bitter aftertaste. Still, it seemed okay overall, so I offered it to others. Some guests declined (including my sister), but others tried it and said it tasted fine, so we kept eating.
My sister, however, got visibly annoyed and seemed offended. She later called me a jerk for eating the cantaloupe and offering it to others after she’d decided to throw it away. To be clear, the cantaloupe ended up tasting sweeter after it sat on the counter for a bit, with the bitter taste going away entirely.
Was I wrong for eating fruit she intended to toss and offering it to guests?
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NTA. A fruit being slightly bruised doesn’t make it inedible. It would’ve been a waste to throw it away
NTA
NTA. People who waste/throw away edible food for not being perfect and pretty enough are AHs.
NTA – She’d given you hwer answer, she was going to throw it away, perfectly good food.
You saved perfectly good food from going in the garbage and got a tasty snack out of it. Your sister is just really picky, and needs to get over her wastefulness.
It’s interesting about what people can start fights…
NTA
NTA. She was just going to pitch it. Why should she care if you ate it?
Throwing away food in this economy? Not the asshole.
NTA. Wasting food is stupid.
is it your house or her house? if it is her house, yta for touching things not presented for the bday. otherwise, nta.
NTA and I don’t even like cantaloupe
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ESH. It was great that you salvaged a perfectly good canteloupe that she was going to throw away. But you should not have fed it to her guests at her son’s party. That’s intruding on the host’s role.
> She later called me a jerk for eating the cantaloupe and offering it to others after she’d decided to throw it away.
NTA – And she decided to keep her mouth shut the entire rest of the time? If she had a problem she should have used her words earlier rather than attacking you for it later
It’s kinda, weird that you took what someone told you was trash and offered it to other people. It’s one thing if you wanted to risk it being bad or near going bad, but it’s another to offer it to your sister’s guests. Soft YTA
>Forgot to mention that I got cantaloupe juice everywhere and when I my sister went to pump this morning her pumps all had cantaloupe juice on them and were so sticky. She told me this today in text. I say I made sure to clean.
OK, come on, this changes everything, especially given it was her house/party…
YTA
NTA. Glad good fruit wasn’t wasted. You should clean up the drips though.
>Forgot to mention that I got cantaloupe juice everywhere and when I my sister went to pump this morning her pumps all had cantaloupe juice on them and were so sticky. She told me this today in text. I say I made sure to clean.
Seriously? I really hope this is a troll post.
YTA for going into her home (OP admitted this in a comment they made), for making a mess everywhere, for getting it on her breast pumps (why were you making a mess near those???), and for refusing to apologize to instead double down with a “noooo but I cleeeeaaaaaned!”
Next time, don’t be a slob near the tools she needs to keep sterile to feed her infant — and take accountability.
YTA for leaving cantaloupe juice everywhere. Not only was it rude and inconsiderate, you could have attracted ants.
Your not one for eating the cantaloupe, but YTA for leaving a huge mess!
How old are you?
YTA. I also have an entitled sister like you. You don’t get to touch other people’s stuff. She might have changed her mind about the cantaloupe. You don’t get to make yourself at home and then take over hosting. You’re too comfortable.
AND YOU MADE A HUGE MESS. Double YTA.
You got cantaloupe juice on her pumping equipment? Of course YTA. Grow up.
YTA. It wasn’t yours. You don’t get to do what you want in another person’s home. That was hers.
And then you got juice all over her pumping supplies. Of course you are the AH here.
Botulism can’t be cured, and you can catch it from rotting fruit/veggies. You’re NTA, but take better care in the future.
You did what you wanted against your sisters wishes, you made a mess of her house AND you dirtied her pump, which has to be sterile. YTA.