So my step-mom has been in my life since I was 7 and married my dad when I was 8 and I’m 15 now and she’s been just like my mom because my mom isn’t in my life so she kind of gave me the mother figure that I was missing, and I have a step-sister from her that is just like my sister, and her daughter is also really close with my dad and he also provided her with a father figure that she didn’t have.
And recently I’ve been thinking about calling her mom but I’m not sure about it or how would I start it, like if I should just randomly call her mom or I should actually ask if I can, I talked to my sister about it and she said I should just do it. But I’m also worried about if it will get awkward and I’m mostly worried about if she won’t want it.
But does anyone have any advice?
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Whether you just start doing it or whether you ask her if you can, I promise it will melt her heart!
Just ask her. “Thank you for being a mother figure to me. Can I call you mom?”
bro just go for it. she’s been your mom in every way that counts for years. if it feels right in your heart then say it. worst case? slight awkwardness but she’ll probs cry happy tears ngl
Just say it, she will be so appreciative.
Ask her!! My stepmom has been in my life since I was 8, but both she and my bio mom didn’t particularly want me to call her “mom”– so we went with her name. She’s been the mother I always needed but my bio mom wasn’t up to the task for. She knows this, and that she’s my mom even if she didn’t give birth to me.
No matter her choice regarding what you call her, knowing that you feel she’s your mom will mean a heck of a lot to her. Talk to her.
I love this!! She’ll absolutely melt!!
I wouldn’t bother asking. I would just do it. I would hope for tears when you do it.
it would probably make her whole LIFE. give her a card for the next holiday and address it to mom, then just call her mom from there 🥲
You will make her year. I bet if you asked her if it would be ok she’ll burst into tears, it’s beautiful.
This is just so lovely. I can’t imagine her not being touched and thrilled. You could always make her a card or get one at the dollar store and ask her in the card if it feels too awkward to do in person. Tell her what you’ve told us & ask her if it would be ok to call her mom. Of course, beware you might get sore ribs from being hugged so tight by her. I love everything about this. That someone stepped in to be a mother to you & that you as a teen recognize and appreciate that. Sounds like you’re amazing and have a wonderful family.
Bonus mom of a super fantastic 15 year old bonus daughter here! Just randomly say it, babe! She will LOVE it! I’ve bonus daughter her whole life, literally was there when she was born bc her dad’s family was close with mine. She became my bonus goblin when her dad and I started dating 5 years ago. Her bio mother isn’t involved in her life due to her own choices. My daughter started calling me mom about 3 years ago, roughly a year after she moved in with us and my 3 bio kids. She was playing on her phone one quiet afternoon and I texted her “Hey you can call me that M word if you want ❤” and then a couple of hours later she asked me something really generic, like “Hey Mom, can I borrow this?” It makes my heart so happy to hear her say that. In our family, we don’t say we’ve got x bio kids and x bonus kids, we just say we’ve got 4 kids. May I suggest a quick “Night Mom” when you go for a goodnight hug? Best wishes to you both!!
my stepdad is my dad. I tell him I love him once or twice a year. Always refer to him as dad. He never pressured me it was just something that in my mind he earned that title and I started calling him it and never looked back.
Would casually say “hey can I call you mom?” And when she says yes just say “thanks mom”
This is a really good question but honestly I think it depends on the person. Whether you want to just say it, or if you want to ask her first, imnsure it will feel good for you and her and everyone in your family.
Sometimes I feel a little “shy” or unsure about doing something, even if I know it will be ok, so I just take a deep breathe and just do it! She might be surprised at first but I’m sure this will be a wonderful surprise for her. You might feel nervous or excited or any mix of things, and that’s normal too. You might want to talk to her about calling her mom and how that makes you feel, or you might just want to give her a hug and then go off and do whatever you were going to do. Both are totally normal and ok. Good luck!!!
Just say, when the moment feels natural, “you know, I really love you mom”. That should do it
Tell her you want to. She will probably like it.
Just call her mum like it’s a natural thing. I’m a step mum and it’s the most wonderful feeling when your called mum. My bio son calls my husband dad and you couldn’t wipe the smile off his face the first time he heard it.
Ask her. I am sure she would get teary eyed and be thrilled … so will your step sister. I’m pleased for you.
Yes.
TALK with her about it.
Basically tell HER what you just told US.
I hope it will go well with you all.
I met my daughter when she was 18. I’ve been in her life for 13 years. 3 Christmases ago, she was facetiming someone and introduced me and my husband as the parents. That was nice. 2 Mother’s Day ago. She sent me a heartwarming text and put Mom at the end of the message. We texted a bit and I told her I love I’m mom. She said she was shy. Obviously she has shown you love, that’s why you want to call her mom. You’ll give her great joy. Just ask.
Such a beautiful family and wholesome sentiment. Please come back and tell us how it went once you’ve done it 🙂
The only 2 persons I would have been concerned about are (1) your biological mom, in case your relationship changes later (2) your step-sister who is about to share her mom so completely with you when she may not be ready to take reciprocal steps with your dad.
Keep in mind the only hesitation your stepmom may feel about this may be out of respect for your biological mom despite the fact that she completely loves you like a mom.
I wish you did this on mother’s day. But it’s to far away now.
It sounds to me like she has earned the title and I think if you surprise slip it in she’d be delighted.
This is like the most wholesome thing I’ve ever read on the internet.
Wait until the next time she does something nice for you and say “thanks mom” and dollars to donuts she will cry tears of happiness for like an hour after.
Slip it in casual 😉
Keep being a good, thoughtful kid who considers how your actions affect others!
As a “ step dad” my girls have called me dad for years. It was different at first but they were you d and asked. She has been you mom for a long time. She already knows it and is it. She likely doesn’t care about a label as I never did. She knows who and what she is.
It’s all in your head as most things are. Us men have an ego problem from birth. Just do it or don’t.
When you are hurt and want your mom do you think of her? Then call her mom. I’m sure she already feels like it in her heart.
My stepdad’s been in my life ever since I was 7 years old and the first day I met him I called him Dad because he was more of a father than my biological father ever was or ever will be 💕call her mom she’ll love it 😊
I’m so happy that you have such a bond with your stepmom. It’s a rare thing and I can’t imagine her not being thrilled if you called her mom. You could certainly test it out, or just asking her when you are alone if it would be ok to call her mom. I imagine if you feel so strongly about it, she must treat you very well and see you as her son already. I think your sister is right though, just do it. Throw it in where it feels natural: “thanks for dinner mom!” “Good morning/ night mom!”
So pure and wholesome. I want the update!
Just talk to your step mom and tell her how you feel she is truly your mom in every way and would like to drop the step title and just call you mom and ask what do you think? I suspect she will feel honored!
Just spontaneously do it. You clearly see her as Mom …. it’ll make her day.