What are some tips you’d give a 29 yo re-entering the dating world after 10 years?
What are some tips you’d give a 29 yo re-entering the dating world after 10 years?
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What are some tips you’d give a 29 yo re-entering the dating world after 10 years?
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Have realistic expectations for people. It seems now people expect to date a person that looks like photoshop
Be upfront with what you’re looking for. It’s less exhausting when your both on the same page
Be clear about your intentions, but also understand that a lot of people, as of now, are not interested in committing relationships. Situationships and flings are the norm. And most of all people have lost the ability to communicate properly so there’s gonna be some communication issues.
Don’t get married
Remember the other person is just as nervous as you on the first date 🙂
Be yourself. Don’t compromise. Trim the boys. Talk about ideas, not people. Enjoy the moment, during the moment, not when you look back at the 150 pictures you took instead of enjoying the moment. Don’t compromise. Date the guy / girl you aspire to be with, not the loser you deserve. Trim the boys. Speak of hope and future, not of past drama and anxiety. Cut losers quickly – and keep the winners around forever. Don’t compromise. Identify red flags, but don’t invent them. Mint chocolate chip ice cream is a very real red flag – ditch that person. They only deserve you at your best, if they still want you at your worst. Don’t compromise. A movie quote, or song lyric is not a personality – if they think it is, lose them. Don’t compromise.
Good luck
Don’t be intimidated
Always ask what their intentions are and be clear with yours too. I’ve met women that want to date to marry while others want to date to have fun or just because they’re “bored.”
Expect that the ones who are marriage minded are rare and expect that there’s a lot of people who are into and do the casual, hookup, FWB, roster culture who are devoid of feeling, having avoidant attachment styles if any attachment style at all, commitment-phobic unless it serves a purpose for them. Expect the table scraps of emotion.
If the casual fling and hookup culture is your style, you’ll be good.
Dating apps are designed to take your money, not find you a partner.
Get in the gym, get yourself in the best shape of your life
You are the prize, srsly.
If they like you, then they won’t make it hard for you.
If you find yourself doing too much and not getting reciprocal response, move on.
Have boundaries and stand your ground.