I’ve been in a relationship for about 4 years , unfortunately I feel like I’ve lost the spark and I think it’s due to his behavior. He has never made me feel special even after all the effort for him to feel special. He has made me bawl my eyes out almost every birthday and anniversary. He complains about things so much and I’ve never seen it as anything wrong till recently I started seeing it as childish. Every time I have cried to him and told him how he made me feel he will sometimes tell me to get over it or that I shouldn’t hang onto something in the past because it ruins our relationship? I don’t know I feel stuck and I want to break up with him I just don’t know how because we have been together for a really long time. I feel like a dick
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Just be honest with him, tell him you no longer feel the same way and it’s be better to break up then stay in a place where you will both be unhappy. You’re to young to keep being somewhere you know is no longer for you. You gave it all you could and that’s good, sometimes unfortunately people change or don’t and you need to put yourself first and do what’s best for you especially since you’ve already tried communicating with him and it obviously hasn’t done anything. It’s probably gonna hurt but I promise you’ll both get thru it and you’ll be happy with your decision
I’ve been there and unfortunately let it sit for another year after I realized it wasn’t working, thinking it was just a weird phase I’d grow out of. I felt like a dick too, but I know it would have been even worse for both of us if I’d waited any longer. And if he’s making you cry on days that should be special, is that really something you would want to relive every year?
“Hey, I don’t feel happy in this relationship anymore. I am breaking up with you.”
And then make a CLEAN break. Go no contact.
Don’t do what I did. I married him thinking I had to stick it out for the long run. If you have an unliking they aren’t the one for you get out now and be grateful you’re not too late!