Genuinely curious. Looking to hear honest, respectful takes on what often gets overlooked in dating from your side.
What’s something you wish more women understood about dating from a man’s perspective?
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Genuinely curious. Looking to hear honest, respectful takes on what often gets overlooked in dating from your side.
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Just because I’m not “conventionally attractive” doesn’t automatically make me a “creep”
Some men really do want a life partner.
That not all men want to do the deed right away, especially if you’re looking for the right one…you’d hope she doesn’t let you so easily. Yes we have urges but sometimes it’s more than just your body we look for. That’s just my take.
We don’t care about your profession, education, or earnings.
Sometimes seeing you smile or hearing you laugh can make the whole day. It can be incredibly attractive and make me want to give you more reasons to do them.
I don’t want anything from you just want to bask in the joy.
you are very replaceable. If you are a man who has his shit together – I have 10 women ready to replace you at any time
you are not as attractive as you think you are
you need to be able to offer more than sex if you are looking for LTR. Most of you don’t.
looks can get you only so far. You need personality too. The bar is so low and still over half of the women I dated couldn’t pass it, they had the personalities of a turnip.
dating apps are for hooking up
The standards guys have for sleeping with a woman vs being in a relationship with a woman. I remember a matchmaker saying on social media how she would show potential matches she had for them only to have the women complain about the quality of the match. They would show the guys they slept with like that was the standard of guy they should be looking to date. She had to explain that they realistically couldn’t date a guy like that. Women absolutely went off on her for those comments. Clearly women don’t want to hear the truth. It’s sad because realistically the guys were probably good matches for them and they could have a meaningful happy relationship if they just got over themselves.
please try to add a bit to the conversation, I’m so tired of always having to carry and steer all the conversation. Besides having to make the effort to turn this date into something barely amusing, I get the feeling you’re not interested in me.
Frankly Im begining to think I can have better conversations with an AI than with any woman I try to date, and thats frustrating as hell, mopstly because I dont see you putting any effort
That I’m not interested in sex on the first date. I’m not interested in sex on the second, third or fourth date. I want to actually date and get to know a person well before I have sex with them and that’s not going to be an immediate thing. I want a firm foundation before that step in the relationship.
That it’s hard, so don’t be mad at us when we give it an honest try.
Also, women seem to complain about the same group of traits in men. Well, a lot of men don’t have those bad traits, so date those men.
Always running late gets old very fast. It’s not a good look.
Anytime you want to give him a sign/signal…don’t.
What a woman thinks is a good signal like “that you are interested “, isn’t. It is inly clear to another woman, not a man. If you are not direct or verbal, we won’t bother.
One of my biggest pet peeves, is when you say you are hungry… but never know what you want to eat.
If you don’t like my 1st suggestion..ok.
2nd suggestion is where we are going.
Playing hard to get. What are we in high school. I don’t have time for games.
What is ending my current relationship, not texting me back. I’m not talking right away but in a reasonable amount of time ( few hours). It’s a red flag and just shows me how much I really mean to her. The “I love you and miss you” text that she used to send don’t mean anything anymore.
When a man truly loves you. He loves you unconditionally.
He doesn’t say it and not mean it.
This might sound really sexist. But when you’re out with a girl you’re basically responsible for them. I’m not saying they all need to be looked after but if something happens and you don’t step up. You’ve failed as a man.
We forget things just like you do. If we’ve forgotten something, cut us some slack.
We’re not here for your entertainment. Hear a lot of women want adventure and excitement from the first message expecting jokes and laughter asap on demand when we just want to know you before knowing how to interact.