My (30M) girlfriend (25F) of 1.5 years has always had kind of a “celebrity crush” on a baseball player on a certain MLB team, calling him hot, etc. I’ve never really been bothered by it before now. For reference, she’s not a big sports fan, and doesn’t even keep up with the team he plays for.
In a few weeks, this baseball team is coming into town to play our hometown baseball team. My girlfriend recently told me that she wants to go to see him. She also said that taking her is a “non-negotiable.” I was honestly taken aback by this, as it feels like she’s wielding the threat of a breakup if I don’t take her to something like a baseball game. Not to mention the fact that I feel like I would be paying my hard earned money and spending my valuable time just to take her to see a player she has a crush on. We’ve gone to several baseball games and they’re usually quite expensive in our city. The whole thing just feels very disrespectful to me.
TLDR: My girlfriend said it’s a non-negotiable to take her to a baseball game because she has a crush on a player. Would I be a jerk to refuse?
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this is rather immature behavior out of a 25 year old grown woman. I also wonder what else she would leverage in this way later on in life if you two got married.
Just take her bro she’s not gonna get with him lol. I’d call it a win that she even wants to go to a game! I don’t care when my wife thinks a player is hot cause at the end of the day she’s having my kid 😂
Non-negotiable? You don’t need me to tell you that is already fucked up on its own, and that is before even getting to the fact that she’s going for the stated reason of drooling over some guy.
I imagine if you ask whether she would leave you for him, her response would be something like “Oh he’d never ask me to…”
Honestly if she wasn’t joking around then the only weird part is her saying it’s “non negotiable” but even then I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. My gf is the same with a basketball player in the NBA and has asked if we can go see him when he comes to play our hometown team. I think all of us have a celebrity crush we’d love to see in person one day
There’s only one solution to this problem – walk away. People who give ultimatums are trying to assert dominance. Do really want to continue spending your time with someone who makes threats because they want to see someone else they’re sexually attracted to?