Hey Reddit,
Still in shock about this, but I returned home today from college and found out from my mom that she’d been sexually assaulted in two separate cases – from “family friend” contractors that came over to fix her restroom.
It thankfully didn’t go all the way, but the first one hugged her from the back and wouldn’t let go. She managed to shake him off after fighting back and yelling, but the second one wouldn’t let go until she hit him using a mug, from where they then started fighting on the floor. She has scratches, bruises, and bite marks all over her back, arms, and neck. This happened two and four weeks ago respectively. The marks on her are still visible, but not as damaging as they were when this happened.
The reason why this happened is because my father passed away 3 years ago. These contractors were people that we knew, and she said that they thought she would be lonely and appreciate their company. Obviously false because my mother screamed and hit them before they let go.
I’m pissed and I honestly want to hunt them down and k*** them. But my mother refuses to tell me who they are because she fears it’ll distract us from our own priorities. She does not understand that she comes first in our lives.
I was only able to get my mom to tell me what happened because I pressured her to tell me why she had bruises on her arm. Only I know this currently, and she made me promise I wouldn’t tell my older brother. But I’m at a lost to do. There’s no evidence except for the fading bruises, she doesn’t want to burden us with this, and I don’t know who else to ask for advice.
Please help Reddit, I’m losing my mind over here.
She still has scratchs and bruises where they assaulted her but they’re halfway faded by now.
Location: Texas
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Honestly you should talk to her more about it. You should get photos of the bruises etc for the police. Your mom might want to protect them but they may be doing this to other women too (and getting father than they did w mom)
NAL but the bruises and marks are evidence. Report it ASAP before they go away.
Take pictures now and report to cops ASAP, don’t wait any longer.
Your mother is the one who gets to decide if she makes a police report, or goes to a hospital for a sexual assault examination. You can encourage her and support her.
You can also report the assault yourself. Investigators would interview your mother. If she declined to cooperate with them by naming her known assailants, that would very probably end their investigation.
>hunt them down and kill them
Your mother would presumably be heartbroken to come witness your execution.
I would encourage your Mom to report this. Why? I seriously doubt that this is the only incident that has happened with these “contractors”.
You stated in your post that the reason why they came over was that they thought your Mom was lonely and they knew your Dad has passed away…..it sounds like they planned this in advance, and that they are predators.
Support your Mom in her wishes, but I think you should point out that this has most likely happened before with someone else, and will more likely happen again. I seriously doubt that this was a one time incident or misunderstanding.
Get their names and file a report immediately. Explain to her that this is to prevent it from happening to anyone ever again in the future, and these are clearly insane criminals that need to be brought to justice.
Don’t do anything she doesn’t want to do. This isn’t about you and your feelings, it’s about her. Don’t be another person who does something to her without her consent.
Please encourage your mom to report them so that they don’t try this on other women.
Others have pointed out they may be doing this to others (likely). But another consideration is that they may try to target her again. They know she’s alone and vulnerable.