I was violated

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I need help,

For context I’m a 35M from the UK – I have a local Thai massage place that’s all above board and usually they are my choice of massage parlour

Yesterday I couldn’t get in at my normal face so I opted for a new place (Naively) expecting it to be just professional but it was far from it

First off she straddled me when I was laid face down and she had a dress on and I don’t believe she was wearing any underwear

Then 30 mins in she asked if I wanted a “Naughty” massage, which I declined (I’m engaged and in a happy relationship) she pressed further and I declined again – She continued for 30 seconds before then crouching in front of me saying “darling look at me” and then begged me, bringing the price down from £20 to £10 before proceeding to tell me she really wanted to do it because “she liked me”

At this point I declined again, she then began massaging me quite rough and asked one more time, at which point, I got up, got dressed and left all whilst she begged me not to leave

I felt violated and was left upset by the while thing and called my partner to tell her what happened, she was unhappy

I contacted the owner and asked for a refund and they apologised and issued a refund

I’ve not told others because you know “your fault, or what did you expect etc” but if it was a man who did this to a woman then it would be outrageous and sexual assault

Just needed to get this off my chest, thank you

Comments

  1. Capital_Low3538 Avatar

    Damn, this is bad. Take care, harassment and violation is a serious crime no matter the gender.

  2. Hefty-Ad899 Avatar

    You were violated sorry you went though that crazy how many times you said no and she wouldn’t back off you could report the place to the police might not go anywhere but at least they can look into it if your comfortable with that.

  3. Comfortable_Put_2455 Avatar

    Go to the police, for many reasons. Firstly, you’ve been sexually assaulted. Secondly, those places commonly employ illegal workers, or use illegal practices, so the woman who did this may be feeling under pressure to do exactly what her boss says. Those Thai massage places are well known for being of a sexual nature, not officially, and they won’t tell you that until it’s too late. They’ll make you think they like you, as that would make lots of men come back. I’m really sorry you experienced this, the fact that you’re a man and she’s a woman doesn’t make this less serious.

  4. deoxysney Avatar

    Contact the police. This is not okay. No means no.