Hi 24M here. I was out with some friends (4 guys, 24-27, and one of their girlfriends, 25F). We were celebrating one of the guy’s birthdays so we ended up hopping from pub to pub and ended up at a club by the end of the night. Everyone was definitely wasted by the end of the night but I lowkey have a fear of throwing up, so I always watch what and how much I’m drinking. All the other guys drank a lot.
One of my friends 26M went downhill super fast. He threw up a lot and everywhere outside the club. To the point where we started getting attention from people passing by, who tried to start helping. I was one of the most sober people in the group, so I was running back and forth to get him water and paper towels. I had to immediately put my vomit fears aside to help him, but I was covered in it. The club ends up telling us we have to leave, he can’t be throwing up like that in front of their business. But at that point my mate was on the floor. He couldn’t move any of his body. We had to carry him to the car lot before the club called the police.
By the time we get him to the lot, he demands we put him down on the floor or just leave him there. He was completely incoherent and couldn’t move himself. We weren’t able to get a taxi but we managed to get a hold of his girlfriend to come pick us up. When she got there, we picked him up to put him in the car and then he shat himself. It was warm and liquidy and it got all over me and my other mate. We had to put him down and he just laid there shitting himself. He couldn’t stop. We had never seen that happen, and some of my friends are borderline alcoholics, so we decided to take him to the hospital. We loaded him into the car and got him there and he was fine. Everyone was gagging the whole way there. His girlfriend told us to go home, so we all left the hospital. I went home and sat on the floor in my shower for maybe an hour.
Now I’m having this problem where I keep replaying the moment he shit himself in my head. I know it’s not his fault, and I don’t want to accidentally put it against him in my head. I don’t do well with bodily fluids of any kind, so poop would be the worst for me. I feel like I can still smell it, even though I shouldn’t be able to. How am I supposed to just move on from this? I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or like I’m not here for him but I honestly don’t know how I can ever see him the same way again but we’re also coworkers. I feel like a horrible person
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It most definitely is his fault. He drank himself into oblivion. He’s got major issues. I’m sure his GF will be posting later about what a mess her BF is.
In the future, I would just not go out drinking with this guy. He’s out of control. I think the poop disaster will fade from your thoughts with time. But if you don’t want to be around him in the short term nobody will blame you. In fact, if all of his friends start avoiding him that might send him a message.
I don’t know how people can get that loaded. I’ve been so loaded i couldn’t move and have never shit myself. I’m sure you’ll get over it.
Keep making it weird until he gets his drinking under reasonable control.
masturbate in front of him to get even
Have you thought about how he feels?
You guys should definitely make him feel bad about it. If your reaction to literally being shit on is to try not to hurt the dudes feeling you are way to nice for your own good. Sometimes you need to have your feelings hurt. He’s lucky you and the other guys were with him because a lot of people would have left him to get arrested and suffer diarrhea death in a jail cell.
He absolutely owes you for putting you through that and you should be at the very least cold to him for a while. The whole thing is 100% his fault.
Realize that shitting yourself is just a thing people do, especially as they get older. If it hasn’t happened to you yet, just you wait. I think I have a fart that turns into a shit at least once or twice a year in my late 30s
You realize that every human shits. Then you laugh and move on.