My current relationship has been the most healthy and mature relationship I have had, coming from past relationships where my partner was unfaithful or just was a toxic relationship all around.
Unfortunately because of this, I have trust issues which I am actively working on and have made a lot of progress on. In the past we have always talked about how weird it is to keep nudes of our ex’s and that we haven’t done that nor would ever do that. .
Yet, a couple days ago I just had the feeling to check my girlfriends hidden folder. I randomly asked her to see it and she agreed then as she opened it she immediately turned her phone away and started deleting stuff. I asked her what she was deleting and if they were other peoples nudes (weird question, I know. I just was basing this all off of a feeling). She then admit they were and immediately started apologizing. She kept saying sorry and didn’t deny any of it and owned up to her mistakes. She claimed she didn’t know why she kept them and claimed she hadn’t used them for anything. I feel uncomfortable knowing that she had my photos in there as well and would see theirs every time she would see mine.
My trust in her has been broken and it feels like a rinse and repeat of past experiences but I care about her and really have felt something about her that has a lot of potential up until this point. Do I end things?
TL:DR – Girlfriend lied about having nudes of her ex’s. I found out and she owned up to it but still lied regardless until I found out on my own.
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>>et, a couple days ago I just had the feeling to check my girlfriends hidden folder
Why did you just have a feeling? Important info kept out of this narrative.
That’s pretty gross that she would do that to not only you but the other people she had dated previously. I personally wouldn’t stay in a relationship with someone who keeps private and vulnerable photos of people around like trophies. If the roles were reversed and she found photos of your ex’s nudes on your phone how do you think she would react?
You have to decide what you want here. If you want to repair the relationship, you have to figure out what you need and demand it from her. But honestly, she apologized, she gave a reasonable explanation what happened. Not sure what else you need other than time. If you do not want to repair the relationship, it is easy.
The foundation of a relationship is TRUST. Without trust there can be no relationship.