My partner and I for most of our relationship sexual stuff was an everyday thing. Only recently has he wanted to cut down by doing it only 2 times a week and i know some people are going to think that is crazy he was a hyper sexual person and it just rubbed off on me too, so doing it as much as we did was normal.
Going from it being an everyday activity for ages to twice a week is a big change in my eyes. Only because he is the first person i have slept with and i got used to it.
I have asked him about it because i obviously noticed him not engaging as much or saying he’s not in the mood right now. Whenever he says he isn’t in the mood he isn’t rude
about it he just says he would rather cuddle instead.
After talking to him about it he just says it’s because it’s not as important to him and he has reassured me that he still enjoys it but it’s not first place on his to do list anymore.
This is fair enough i would never force him into doing something he doesn’t want to because no one should ever do that.
In this time period which he has decided he wants to cut down i have noticed he is being alot nicer to me than usual he’s being overly sweet and when we do have intimacy he finishes a lot faster compared to how he used too
I’m just confused on if he still enjoys it or if i’m the problem or if he just genuinely doesn’t crave it anymore so if anyone has any opinions that would be grateful appreciate
I just wanted to know from other males if they have had similar situations and just how you guys see it.
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How long have you two been together?
Stuff like that happens I’ve been on both ends, could just be stressed or have something going or even a change in diet could have lowered his drive. For me getting it back up was taking supplements with macaroon and eating a bit healthier and working out regularly
Does he have something stressing him out maybe?
You should talk to him face to face and ask him whats wrong and all
Not to throw a wrench into things, but is it possible he’s seeing someone else? Usually there’s not an abrupt change in sexual activity; it’s usually gradual.
I’m thinking he’s either settling down for you (woohoo, and you’ll feel the same in time he just bet you there cause he’s really smitten),
Or he’s having an affair and lying to you
I hope y’all got more going on than sex cause sex can get too routine as a relationship progresses and a partner may want a deeper connection than just physical
You’re 17 and living together?
As with anything new (that can be repeated) to someone they may do it like crazy for the first little while and then taper off. It’s not that he’s bored or has something wrong. He’s probably just found his swing of things. 2 times per week is probably what he deemed as the appropriate number for him and maybe for you. If you want it more or less, then you should communicate this to your partner.
What are your age range?