Hi. my fiancé and i moved in together about a month ago. we went out last night and he got pretty messed up, i saw him dart for the bathroom while i was settling so i went to comfort him. i saw him immediately go for the sink. and he puked all over it. on my face wash bottle, the hand soap, my friends glasses and makeup that were accidentally left sitting there. he projectile puked on all of it. he has a condition which makes him puke almost once a day. so today after he started feeling better i asked him if he always pukes in the sink. and he said yes. and i’m absolutely disgusted. i put my makeup on/in that sink, i brush my teeth, wash my face, do my hair there every morning. and it’s been covered in puke particles?? i’m very upset im gonna be honest, this is absolutely disgusting and im a very big germaphobe. ESPECIALLY when it comes to my face. the fact that i know ive been putting puke particles on my skin while washing it, doing my makeup, or brushing my teeth could bring me to tears honestly. so is this as disgusting as i think it is?
TLDR:my husband pukes in the sink and i get ready there everything morning, is that gross?
Comments
Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our rules here. We’d like to take this time to remind users that:
We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors
We do not allow users to privately message other users based on their posts here. Users found to be engaging in this conduct will be banned. We highly encourage OP to turn off the ability to be privately messaged in their settings.
Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.)
ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban.
No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users “friend-zoned”, referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me’s, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. This is not an all-inclusive list.
All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don’t get a free pass.
Anyone found to be directly messaging users for any reason whatsoever will be banned.
What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, “body counts” or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. This is not an all-inclusive list.
If you have any questions, please message the mods
This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
If he has a condition that makes him puke, you probably shouldn’t keep stuff on the sink. Even if he commits to puking in the toilet instead, sometimes you just don’t make it there.
Keep the sink area clean and as long as he cleans up the puke, I don’t really see an issue. Bathroom sinks should be cleaned and disinfected regularly regardless
Is it better if he always uses the toilet? Yeah obviously. Worth being pissed about? No I don’t think so.
are you asking if that’s gross? then yes.
if you’re coming here for relationship advice, I didn’t see any part of your post where you actually asked him kindly to use the toilet next time and not the sink, for the reasons you listed.
use your words. ask him to puke in the toilet. if he refuses, then it’s less of a case of “his behaviour is gross” and more a case of “his behaviour is disrespectful and inconsiderate”
I mean, it’s gross but understandable.
As someone who also throws up at least once a day, sometimes I literally just can’t make it to the toilet.
But the point is I TRY to. Does he? Or does he only go for the sink?
You def need to just sit down and explain to him why this bothers you. When you’re on the verge of throwing up, where doesn’t really matter, as long as it’s not the floor imo.
It’s completely understandable to feel violated by something so personal being used as a disposal for puke, especially when it affects your daily routine and hygiene, setting boundaries around shared spaces might help reclaim some control and respect for your space.
My partner doesn’t have a condition and because he was lazy would pee in the sink until I confronted him… I understand where you are coming from it is gross but truthfully he has a condition… maybe ask him to sterilize after he throws up?
you sure you wanna live with that forever? he doesn’t seem considerate
What is his condition that causes this?
Yes, it’s gross. He also gets to clean the bathroom, go buy Draino, new hygiene products for you, and snake the sink. He’s going to clog it. Buy him a sand bucket from the dollar store so he can puke in that. Him getting that drunk is a red flag.
I did this once when really sick. The toilet was two feet away. I felt terrible about it as it was my girlfriend’s sink. Sometimes that two feet wasn’t gonna happen.