I think i fked up real bad. I’ve already been allowing her to keep things at my place, I even gave her half of my closet space to put her things (like evening wear, work out stuff) so she doesn’t have to carry a bag to her work to meet me after.
Last week she asked if she can bring some more clothing over and i said fine without even thinking about it.. SHE THEN COMES WITH A CAR LOAD OF GARBAGE BAG FULL OF CLOTHING. I wish i’m kidding it’s 20 bags.
My place isn’t big, it’s 1+1 nearly 800 sqft condo space.. now my den which i use as an office is covered with her clothing. The worst part is she tells me this is only a quarter of all her stuff
WTF do i do here???
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Tell her the truth, that this is not a reasonable amount of clothing and that your small condo cannot accommodate everything. Tell her that you need your den for work.
There’s no way she can actually regularly wear so many clothes. Give her a reasonable limit and tell her to get rid of all clothing above that limit.
She’s officially moving in? You’re moving in with someone when you can’t have a conversation with about basic math?
Kinda concerning that you told her she could bring some clothing and she brought enough to fill an entire room… That’s not just concerning on the level of how much clothing she owns and what that means for your future space and finances – but on the level of she is taking liberties with your space and thinking nothing of it.
What do you want to do here?
Sounds like you’ve been hit with a cloth-valanche! Time to invest in some storage solutions…or a bigger place!
It’s not the end of the world. This can be sorted. Give her seven days’ notice to clear your space. You’re not being unreasonable you are being sensible. I have a friend whose partner actually kept books in the refrigerator because he’d used up all the space!
She’s moving in….
Has she started with the shoe collection yet – You did not know that women come with accessories.
Maybe she just needs a place to do a sort. Perhaps she’ll edit the size of her wardrobe to a manageable amount. You might mention that she should think of all the people in the community that can use some clothing. Then, she might get generous and make a big donation. You could tell her you’d help her decide what to keep. Good luck.
I need clarity. Is she moving in? Or are these bags just a ‘few’ to tide her over as she spends a few days at your place?
I would not trust this woman with a budget. 20 bags is a bit excessive.
Tell her how you feel
All these guys who’ve never been touched by a female other than their mums 😭😭😭
I think I have (IN TOTAL WITH STUFF FOR THE COLD) 3 bags of clothes. I’m more concerned with the amount to only be a quarter or even half? Have you been to her place? Is she a haul type of girl/horder? I may suggest talking about finances/stuff just to see if you’re on the same page in life. While this sounds crazy, there is a huge flag being thrown here.
Your GF is entitled as h3ll. When she asked to bring over “some clothing”, 20 garbage bags is WAY out of line. She is not respecting you, she is taking advantage of you and slowly moving herself in, or using your apt to clean out her closet at home. Either way, she is a mooch, taking over your space with no regard to how it impacts you. Do you really want to stay with a woman who has literally no respect or feelings for you? Think about it. You are being a door mat….