So I’ve(22m) been dating my girlfriend(22f) for a year now, and she has a guy friend(25m) who asked her out two years ago but she rejected him but they still remains close friends. I’m fine when they hangout in friend groups, but they often hangout alone and she described him as someone she would vent to and can emotionally depend on. When they do hangout alone I find myself being uncomfortable even though I trust my girlfriend 100% . So I made a dumb move of talking about a friend in a similar situation and she called him a red flag and an insecure guy. I’m not sure how she would take it if I let her know directly
Now am I a red flag?
If yes then how do I change myself?
how do I handle this situation?
TL;DR: I’m uncomfortable with my girlfriend hanging out with a guy friend that asked her out
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I find myself being uncomfortable even though I trust my girlfriend 100%
People say this sort of thing all the time, but it doesn’t compute. If you trusted her, you wouldn’t feel uncomfortable. This isn’t a big criticism, because you’re young and trust takes time to establish. For now, try to stay patient and give her the benefit of the doubt. Some of us can stay friendly with an actual ex where the relationship ended. I’m one of them.
If you see or hear something that seems off, that’s when you’d talk to her.