I truthfully am very lost in this. We’ve only been dating 4 months which i know isn’t alot and the obvious answer is leave her but I really do like her and she is my first girlfriend
We met online so she’s come to me from scotlamd and stayed with me for a while going back and forth there and here. I know staying for long periods of time is supposedly bad for relationships but I hasn’t effected me in the slightest so why has it effected her?
Everything was great when she first came. Like a dream. We were together, we were sexually active and all lovey dovey and whatnot but then suddenly after about a month of her being here it stopped. Everything suddenly. She takes antidepressants and was on birth control but she was taking that beforehand aswell and it was fine.
So nothing has happened for three months. We barely talk. Just sit. I feel trapped. I want to fix things but she cant talk about our issues. The same response of hers is just “i dont know” and “i dont know what im supposed to do” it seems there’s no solution. She seems disinterested in trying to fix things.
I am unhappy, very unhappy.
I thimk we are on two very different levels of intimacy or something. I am far too much for her and she is far too little for me. I have stayed consistant throughout but her level of effort and intimacy has decreased in the such little time weve been together.
What can I do, and how can I do it? Thanks all
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Communication is key. If you both can’t openly discuss what you want from the relationship, it’s not going to work. Mental health may be a factor here, but you’re not responsible for fixing her – she needs professional help for that.
tell her goodbye. neither of you will change
Communication is key, mate. If she can’t talk about it, that’s a red flag. Make sure you’re both on the same page or it won’t work out. A relationship is a two-way street.
Lose her number. She ande you are not compatible.
Communication is key in any relationship. Sit her down, express your feelings without blaming. If no compromise or solution can be found, it might be best to part ways. You both deserve happiness.
Nothing reddit says will change who she is.
Humans are ultimately animals and physical contact is very important. Children need hugs to be healthy. Relationships need intimacy to be healthy. Anyone who thinks otherwise is deluded.. Its science.
Just cut your losses and find someone who will give you a healthy relationship.
You can break up.
You need a real girlfriend.
There’s no solution to this but breaking up with her. She might be your first girlfriend but now at least you have experience and know somewhat what you want and don’t want in a girlfriend and that’s a start.
You two are obviously not comparable and 4 months is not enough time to even try “fixing” something like this. Imo a four year relationship with this issue isn’t worth trying to fix. If you like and need affection and she doesn’t bring that to the table y’all are not a match. Plain and simple. Quit wasting your time.
she is not your girlfriend.. she is someone you having sex with. get out of your feelings and move on.. the booty was good but you caught feelings.