Location: Dutchess County NY
Hello, I’m currently 17(f)and will be 18 in November. My parents have been divorced for a long time now. I have a younger biological sister (14, 15 when I turn 18). When I turn 18 will I be able to choose whether/when I go to my Dads or not (located in NJ), despite still having my younger sister who would have to follow the set custody schedule. Like just because she’s still going to be a minor will I also be bond the custody arrangement. I only ask because the schedule has conflicted with me wanting to get a job & do other opportunities.
Tysm!!
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Custody is for minors.
When you’re 18, you dont even have to go.
(Heck, in some states, even teens can choose whether they go visit).
You as an adult can leave the country if you wish with no family notice, your sibling would have to wait until their 18 or if the parents come to an agreement. You are not bond to anything as an adult for good or bad.
Legally, you can choose whether or when to visit your dad.
In a more complicated fashion, however, decisions have consequences. Unless it’s spelled out in the divorce/custody agreement, he may be able to withdraw financial support (short term, things like phone or car insurance, longer term paying for college or other decisions that affect your sibling) if you don’t play ball.
Being 18 can suck, because you’re legally independent and yet frequently super reliant on older adults until you’re more established. I’m not saying your dad will be petty like this, just that it’s a story we’ve heard before so you should consider carefully.