Me(m23) has taken my girlfriend(f21) on $1000+ worth of dates this year and have bought her over 7 bouquets of flowers this year. I woke up this morning to a reposted video she put on tiktok stating “she’d like to go on an actual (proper) date were she gets picked up in high heels and is given a bouquet of flowers”. The video has 3.4 mil views and the comments are full of girls telling girls to break up if they’re not getting this. I felt like a failure because she has friends and family that would see this repost, and I thought I was doing enough for her. We had a cruise this year which costed me $2000 and we planned on moving in together at the end of the year, so I told her money might be tight for me right now. I explained to her that I always pick her up and take her out on dates(while she has heels). She explained that it wasn’t like the tiktok videos because I didn’t have flowers. I then explained that when I took her out for Valentine’s day, I took her out in her heels with a bouquet of roses and she told me that it doesn’t count because it was on Valentine’s day! Am I the bad guy?
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you deserve better, op.
Tell her to fuck off, drop her silly ass, and go get a beer with some friends. This sounds awful.
No, you are not a bad guy. She is just probably young, confused and a bit brain washed by the internet. She will either have to learn how to appreciate you or face realities of dating if she decides that she wants more from a partner
don’t beat yourself up about this, she wants to go somewhere fancy over somewhere that has significance to you both. also take a second to think about what she does for you too, you are doing really well and treating her amazingly.
You’re doing fine! Social media has increased standards so so high so that literally nothing you can do will be enough, keep doing what you’re doing, don’t feel pressured into spending money you don’t have. Maybe try coming up with a compromise together? Simple midweek date with some flowers occasionally?
Female here… sounds like your girl is a material person instead of memories and nice gesture. It’s hard to please people like that.
Do not date people who expect you to compete with videos staged for the algorithm
dump her and tell her to go date tiktok 🤷
If you want an older woman I’m happy to take her place 😂 spoilt princess, save your money and use it to build a future for YOU. Leave her and take some time for yourself because you should never let anyone make you feel anything less than the king you are. Go live your life away from the pointless dramatics of a materialistic plastic princess.
You are setting yourself up for misery, and debt.
Your girlfriend sounds like all she cares about is expensive stuff. You can come take me on a cruise and I promise I will be totally grateful instead of crying because you didn’t spend enough money on me. I can tell you right now nothing you do will be good enough and you’ll always feel like you’re letting her down. You deserve way better than that.
Yes, you are the bad guy! You are bad for not saving. You are bad for spending too much money to someone who doesn’t appreciate even an ounce of your effort.
Yes, you are the bad guy for still being with her. You are the bad guy to yourself. You deserve better.
Get rid of the “baddie”. You can do better man.
make a tiktok how u grateful she is, and ask for applications for a new girlfriend
Yo dude I’m 22(m) I was in a very similar situation we lived together for 3 years I took care of the bills every date and gift etc etc. If she complains about gifts and dates that have genuine meaning and thought leave her. You might think you’re happy but more than likely you are miserable by having a person in such an important role around you. Focus on yourself hustle it up and make her regret complaining!
Your girlfriend sounds pretty immature. Life isn’t about a TikTok video. It’s about care and thoughtfulness and working together to achieve your goals. Go find a girl who wants to be your partner not a TikTok follower. You deserve better.
is it worth going into debt for a materialistic relationship? If you can’t answer that, you might find yourself single AND in debt LOL…Nothing makes me cringe more than people taking relationship advice from tiktok or IG.
She’s trying to make it difficult for you to jump through expectation she doesn’t even have for her self.
What has she done for you ?
Your gf is mental and you deserve better.
Your girlfriend sounds very shallow and inconsiderate of how much work you’re putting into things. Be with someone who respects your time, not just the money you put into things
Real Life is NOT a Fairy tale & she is no Princess.
If she dumps you, then you should be thankful to be free of this undue burden!
Dump her, man. Stop spending your money on a shallow b*tch who uses tiktok to compare your relationship with others.
TikTok is rotting people’s brains, I swear. 🙄
Getting picked up and getting flowers is not a dating norm I’ve ever encountered.
I mean seriously. Maybe for an anniversary or bday but on the regular?
Don’t date anyone who thinks tiktok is reality.
Break up dude. She does not love you.
My husband brought me flowers for our first date and I told him it was nice but not to bother in the future because it’s a waste of money.
Your girlfriend wants to be treated like a princess and whatever you do, she will never be satisfied.
Lots of girls would be thrilled to have you.
I’d remind her that those videos are staged. If she wants a fake life to create one. You’re looking for something real.
Lmao bro you’re not a bad guy. Ya girl is silly for expecting shit she saw in a TikTok. Tell her to grow up 😂😂😂😂😂
Invest that 2000$ and you will get more !