I (30M) and partner (28F) have had our issues since having our first child together who is now 2. We have been to couples therapy which went well for awhile however now things are breaking down again. It was hard enough to get her to go to therapy in the first place and I don’t think she would go back.
The issue is any slight disagreement such as a double booking on the calendar she becomes very emotional (crying, calling names, slamming doors, says she hates me) all in front of our child. I always just say we can talk about this later (when he’s in bed) but she won’t stop until I remove myself from the situation for my son’s sake. She then always says it’s my fault because I made her feel that way.
I fear these outbursts are seriously damaging my son and she just says I’m over reacting he’s fine.
We do deeply care for each other and our son. She is otherwise an amazing mother.
If I have to end the relationship for the sake of saving my son from being damaged I will, but I don’t want to end things
TL;DR!-How can we move forward from outbursts and ensure this stops happening?
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What gives you the idea that you can stop her from this behavior?
You are right to be concerned that your son is being harmed. When she begins to act this way, can you remove both yourself and your son?
I feel like we need more information here. Double booking on her part and she’s overwhelmed? Double booking as in your plans are more important than hers and she’s frustrated you keep choosing you? Have you made plans to keep weekends rotating so you each get to choose? Name calling is never ok. I’m just missing more info.