Hi y’all
I am in a long-distant relationship and I have a hard time trusting my girlfriend. We’ve met through social media during covid and we started a relationship quite after lets say 2,5 years. Back then, she was dating someone else. I am 31 and she is 29. The relationship is 1,5 years long. She lives in the US (San Diego), I live in Europe. We are both madly in love, as she claims, but from time to time she doesn’t respond for hours or even days. Is there a way I can ‘test’ my gf or can someone help me? This is genuine, so please only serious responds.
TL;DR I have trust issues around my gf, is there a way I can test her or someone can test her?
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What exactly do you want to test? Long distance relationship is hard, but if you see a future together maybe it’s better to spend energy on planning how to remove the distance instead of testing something. Obviously long distance relationships with no goal to ultimately live together mostly fail ( especially if it’s USA-Europe)
I mean personally, id say its better not to do these kind of tests, but rather it comes around from trust and communication. Id rather you guys communicated to each other and explain to her about your insecurities and struggles to trust her, a good genuine woman would listen to you and do anything she can to reassure you, but then again, long distances are quite hard I can imagine, but the very least you guys can do is talking and trusting.
Has she specifically done anything to make you distrust her in first place? What has she done for you to have serious trust issues? If you have doubts it should be talked with her.
Im just saying because if you did try to test her and stuff, there’s risk of her finding that out and she might get upset thinking that you dont believe her or trust her if she genuinely is loyal, snd idk, I kind of feel is a bit immature with these “tests”.
If you have never met or have only met once or twice you are not in a relationship. This used to be called having a pen pal. Now tech has made communication easier than writing a letter, popping it in the post and then waiting for a reply but the principle remains the same. You need to reevaluate this and perhaps seek out someone closer to home. And, to be honest, she may already have done that.