A boy has come to live with us through fostercare and he’s been living and going to school with us for like 2 weeks now. He is mute (like physically not mentally) and uses a tts device. People have been picking on him for it so I try to prevent it when I can but it still happens ofc. My friend doesn’t really like him and finds him weird and she’s said that and though I think she doesn’t like him cause he’s mute I find it ok as long as she’s nice to him and doesn’t let it show. And she’s been doing that until yesterday, yesterday her and the rest of the friend group stole his tts device and broke it while he was in pe. He didn’t wanna tell anyone and get them in trouble but I was SO pissed cause what!! How are you gonna act all nice and then do such a dick move! I was really angry so I told a bunch of teachers and they got in trouble for it but I told my friends her parents too even though I know they’re super strict and she’s like grounded for forever now, I feel kind of bad for snitching on them because they’re my friends but I also think it was a really shitty thing to do, that thing was expensive too and it’s basically his voice so like why would you do that!! Aita?
I snitched on my friends
r/AITAH
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NTA. You did the right thing.
No ur not the asshole what they did was really messed up breaking his voice thing is just cruel I get u feel bad but u did the right thing sometimes u gotta stand up for people who cant defend themselfs ur friends need to learn thats not ok
You should always stand up for someone getting bullied. Someone who would do that is not a friend, and you may want to question whether you want to continue a friendship with her. You are the company you keep.
NTA. That is NOT snitching. Snitching is when you are an accomplice and provide information against others about something you yourself either participated in or bore some responsibility for. In other words, you were an ally at first, and then switched sides.
Not only that, but this is a situation in which your friends betrayed you, not the other way around.
NTA at all. Your friends are free to dislike or just not being interested in being close with another classmate as long as they respect him, but that doesn’t give them the right to bully and abuse him, which is exactly what they did: they manipulated him by playing nice only to steal the TTS device and break it, something he NEEDS to live and communicate since he is mute! Not to mention how expensive one of those are! And then tried to keep quiet to avoid trouble while leaving that poor child mute and invalid without being able to communicate, just to avoid consequences of their own actions.
No, OP, you did the right thing, they deserved to be called out on their behaviour and face consequences for it, what they did is bullying and abuse.
Ass
NTA. They destroyed his only way to communicate . That’s beyond bullying . It’s cruel and ableist. They deserved to get in trouble . Good on you for standing up for him
NTA, your friends are big AH for real. That’s just a cruel thing to do, kinda like breaking someone’s mouth and disabling them to communicate. Just awful.
NTA. I hope he gets another tts device soon. It’s heartbreaking to read this is why they were snitched on. I thought it would just be gossip related; it’s still shitty, but not as awful. You did the right thing but it doesn’t change what they did might permanently scar his ego.
Nta, but you should NOT find ableism in any capacity okay, even if they may mask it. You should probably cut those friends completely off, they are not the type of people you should hang around if they find bullying disabled people funny :/
NTA. You didn’t snitch, you stood up for someone who literally couldn’t speak for himself. That’s not betrayal. That’s integrity.
As a hearing person who grew up in a deaf household, I thank you on behalf of your foster sibling. If I were you, I would reevaluate your friendship with those other people. They don’t seem like quality people you should surround yourself with.
NTA. That was a shitty thing to do and they need to face consequences for their actions. No one likes consequences; that’s why they’re consequences. Honestly, I would have asked her parents/the other kids’ parents to reimburse for the cost of the tts cause it’s destruction of property, if not destruction of medical equipment, and they are absolutely on the hook for it.
NTA – Your friends are AH… maybe find a new group.
NTA and your friends were bullying.