A private, unflattering photo of me accidentally ended up in my girlfriend’s camera roll. We thought the pictures were deleted and moved to her private photo vault, but one was missed (I know, very stupid of us. We’ve learned from it).
While showing her friends vacation pics, they accidentally saw it and burst out laughing. She felt awful for embarrassing me, apologized profusely, and I’ve forgiven her. However, now she’s really upset with her friends for laughing pretty hard at the picture. She called their reaction mean and has been distant with them ever since.
While I appreciate that she’s standing up for me, I don’t think it’s worth blowing up a friendship over a spontaneous reaction, even if it was at my expense.
Would this change how you feel about your friends if you were in her shoes? How do you think she should go about dealing with this?
(Full story is in my post history if you want context, but this post is just looking for advice on her relationship with her friends)
TLDR; My girlfriend accidentally showed her friends a very unflattering photo of me. They laughed pretty hard in the moment, and now she’s mad at them for their reaction. Is that a normal reaction, or is she being too hard on them?
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Probably being too hard on them but its her prerogative
She needs to forgive them. Laughter is a very common “startled” or “confused” reaction.
I kinda think she’s overreacting.
It’s a photo of you, you’re over it.
Just what exactly about their laughter offends her so much?
They saw a private photo of you, I’m sure they laughed because it was awkward and not because they thought some way about how you looked in the photo.
I’d honestly ask what she’s really angry about.
That really sucks, but it’s not really YOUR problem on whether or not she forgives them. I think she’s just also mad at herself for letting it happen and thinks they’ll make fun of both you and her every reaction they have after that, were you there when it happened or did she tell you?
YTAH- how many times are you going to post this?
There’s too little
Laughter in the world. Don’t be mad at ppls for
Enjoying a giggle.
Laughter can be a subconscious response to surprise.
Holy shit you say you and your girlfriend are 25 but yall act like you’re 11 lol.
Your girlfriend should have said “hey, I know it’s unflattering but he’s my boyfriend and I’d appreciate it if yall didn’t laugh at the photo.” And that should be the end of it but anyways here we are, so….
It’s a photo that you don’t look great in, who cares? Happens to everyone.
It’s your girlfriend’s choice if she wants to stay friends with them or not. I feel like she’s overreacting a bit but we dont know the specifics. Were you wearing a pair of her underwear and they laughed? I mean that’s funny. Was the photo of a weird angle of your hand looking weird? And then they said “hey, your boyfriend’s hand is ugly, what are you doing with him?” Still funny, but mean and that’s why you would cut things off with friends. See context matters.
At the end of the day I feel like you’re both overreacting.