I’m trying to figure out how to even respond to this and make sense of it. Are his points valid? This is his message:
Thank you for sending the message the other day. You do deserve to have clarity and know where we stand and I appreciate that you want to clarify things. I’ve been thinking about what you shared in the past couple of days.
Pishi I really hate to see how negatively you have been impacted by my situation in the past few weeks even though I’ve been trying to keep it inside me. I’m not actively talking about my visa, work or personal situation because I don’t want to bring too much negativity to your life. I guess I just become more reserved when I’m under stress to minimize affecting people around me and therefore I have become distanced. It makes me feel horrible to see you getting upset, disappointed and hurt. You don’t deserve that. I understand it’s your choice to want to put up with these or not but it makes me not feel good about myself either knowing that I can’t provide security and stability. Specially when I know you have to deal with so much anxiety that you can’t breathe 🙁
I really don’t know how much detail I should be sharing here about what’s in my head cause I don’t share much with anyone beside you. I think I’m just really not in the right place to be in a relationship. I don’t know when things are gonna change with me but I don’t think it’s healthy for us to go through these. Of course in the past few days I missed you and thought about you everywhere I go. There is no question about you not trying. I’m seeing it and appreciate it. No matter if we are in a relationship or not or we are friends I still care about you and would do the same small caring things I’ve done for you. I’m really sorry that I haven’t been able to protect your feelings. These recent misunderstandings and “conflicts” were really draining. We really don’t deserve going through these ups and downs and you deserve to be a happy pishi and your and my mental health are important as you mentioned in the call. I guess I ended my therapy sessions at the very wrong time. I’m really sorry again for how negatively you have been impacted.
if you want to talk on the phone or in person later for more clarity it’s welcomed pishi. Perhaps sometime when I can step outside from my parent’s house so I can speak freely and also make sure they don’t see me like this.
Is he ending this?
Tl; dr I’m not sure if he’s leaving me
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Yes, he wants to end the relationship.
>I’m just really not in the right place to be in a relationship. I don’t know when things are gonna change with me but I don’t think it’s healthy for us to go through these.
>These recent misunderstandings and “conflicts” were really draining. We really don’t deserve going through these ups and downs and you deserve to be a happy
>I’m really sorry
He is 36 and he is ending a relationship WITH A TEXT?! Shame on him.
He wants to break up and he is too gutless to say it to your face.
Yes, you’ve been dumped.
Your relationship isn’t one where you’re a team and work together when shit hits the fan. This usually signifies a relationship isn’t that serious . It doesn’t matter if it was an intentional choice not to be serious – even if you both want it to be serious, you can’t build a life together unless you work together as one unit.
So, he’s breaking up with you so that he can handle his shit on his own. Either bc he’s not that into you or bc he’s bad at working together as a unit in a relationship. Regardless of the reason, he doesn’t want to have to deal with the issues that arise in a relationship – ie communication, supporting each other.
He broke up via text which really should say something about how much he cares. Regardless of how he’s treated you in the past or if you both say you love each other, he’s not even talking to you in person when knowing he’s saying something that’ll break your heart.
He broke up with you and good riddance if this is how he is. He can’t even call you on the phone, or do it face to face???
If you’re not sure if he’s leaving you, do yourself a favor and leave him. Any sort of serious conversation shouldn’t happen over text, you haven’t mentioned how long you’ve been together, but the age gap is 🚩🚩🚩.