weve been dating for around 7 months now, and we have issues communicating at times. i want more communication from her, and she doesnt seem to find it as important. weve had a few conversations about this, and i dont know if i should keep trying to bring it up- because i dont think things are changing. i dont know if im asking too much. she doesnt really let me in on how shes feeling or what shes thinking- shes very blunt and hard to read. i feel a really big emotional disconnect with her. she doesnt tell me when things really bother her either truthfully, like she didnt want to see my family over christmas because it was overwhelming for her to be at the house and she didnt tell me until a few weeks ago. when i ask if she wants to do something/go somewhere and she doesnt, she finds excuses instead of just being honest. she says its hard for her to communicate, which i totally get as someone with AUDHD i cant find my words half the time. but its like she doesnt even try or care. right now i feel like shes upset with me, but instead of saying anything, (i asked her if somethings bothering her- we were talking about work) she just completely ignores the message i sent about it and only responded to the one about work. i ask how shes doing and she just says “im ok, im going to go clean my house is really messy.” and dips. i feel like i cant break through to her and im slowly losing hope and giving up.
i have a plan to bring this to light to her tomorrow if she wants to come over, but im worried if i communicate things to her its not going to get through and there wont really be any changes. ive asked before simple asks that she agreed to, like letting me know shes about to start work or hang with friends- i dont do it to keep tabs on her, i just want to be involved with her life and sometimes it feels like she just doesnt want me to be.
how can i approach this conversation without judgement or hurting her feelings?
TL;DR: ive expressed concerns with my gf about our lack of communication, not knowing how she feels or is thinking, and i feel like she doesnt make effort to change or sees it as important as i do. is it worth trying to have another conversation about it?