On a burner account. I’ll write what happened leading up to me getting stabbed.
My wife 30 has a cousin she is very close with. They have bond closer then her actual siblings.
I was part of his group of friends when I meet her.
I showed interest in her but her cousin told me to back off because to be fair I wasnt in the best place at that time. Substance abuse ect. Still didn’t stop me from secretly trying to talk to her and get to know her though.
She was nice and I thought I’ll try my chance but I left it to late. She started dating her ex and moved away.
I thought that was it until she moved back with her sons. She was pretty heart broken. Her cousin had a party at his house couple months later. I knew it was dumb idea but I was asking her cousin about her and asked for her number but he told me to go back to the party and I argued and so he started shoving me back towards the party and I took a swing and I ended up getting stabbed. Got a scar for it.
Scared me and realized I could have died and started making better life choices and cleaned myself up. It was chance that I meet her at the mall and we got talking. Eventually led to us getting married. Then couple of days she finally got curious about the scar and I didn’t want to tell her because she still close with her cousin. But she pushed and I told her. She went pale and said he wouldnt do that. I said it doesnt matter it in the past now and we both grown up alot since then. But she went back inside and now I regret telling her about it and hurting her. She hasnt been talking much. AITAH for telling her?
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I’m sensing an unreliable narrator. There’s more to the story. And maybe that’s what your wife is picking up on too.
NTA. It’s a story that would have eventually come out, and then she would be even more upset that you kept it from her. She’s probably still trying to process how someone she loves could do that to someone else she loves. It’s a lot for sure.
You were in a bad place. Cousin was protecting her. You cleaned yourself up. Cousin and you are now good.
And you have a scar (and her) to prove it.
Updateme
I sense you’re withholding information to protect yourself. Was it really just an argument and swing that caused you to get stabbed?
NTA, but you should have warned her that it included someone that she loves and respects so she could have made a choice about knowing.
Sounds like you were playing Mexican judo.
NTA, you had no choice
Only chatgpt could be so causal about getting stabbed.
Haha but it doesn’t have any of the other markers?
Better not to be a liar. Also, that cousin is a friggin psycho that should be in prison. NTA
Everyone’s aghast at the stabbing and sure, stabbing people is an extremely fucked up thing to do but in certain parts of the world – such as the UK – knife crime is pretty common, so it’s not that much of a surprise.
As least he didn’t have to explain why her cousin shot him, US style.
I have no opinion on the assholery here. Feels like too much stuff is missing.
Everyone’s aghast at the stabbing and sure, stabbing people is an extremely fucked up thing to do but in certain parts of the world – such as the UK – knife crime is pretty common, so it’s not that much of a surprise.
As least he didn’t have to explain why her cousin shot him, we get enough of those at house parties gone wrong in the US.
I have no opinion on the assholery here. Feels like too much stuff is missing.
Tell her why he did say he was protecting her and at the time you was messed up
I probably wouldn’t have told her, Mercutio, but you are not an AH.
At least you were luckier than Tybalt
Updateme
did you say “i tried attacking him because he refused giving me your number”?
beacuse anything else is a lie
I think stabbing someone is pretty messed up behavior. But the truth is our world is full of messed up people and you should expect anything when you get physical with someone. I refuse to fight on that logic. If I have to defend myself I will. Self defense is self defense. Keep your hands to yourselves. You are NTA for being honest. And congratulations on cleaning your life up. Keep doing better for yourself.