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Hi everyone,
I wasn’t expecting my post to blow up like that, but appreciate all the thoughtful comments, personal stories, and validation. Thank you so much—it really helped me feel less alone and more grounded in my feelings.
Just to clarify a few things that came up:
My husband has never called his mom “Mama”—not even as a joke or a nickname. He only ever uses that for me in the context of our baby.
On Day 1 of her visit, I directly told her: “Please don’t. I’m the mama, and this is my baby,” as a response to a comment she made along the lines of “I want to take him home.” So yes, she knew exactly where I stood.
At the moment, I’m still processing everything. I haven’t confronted her yet—I’m honestly too emotionally drained and I want to be careful with how I handle it.
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I think waiting to deal with it is the right call here. Honestly, if I were you, I would probably wait until she was home and call her to tell her that she was already on thin ice, but this was a final straw and you don’t want her around you or LO again for a while. I would also explicitly state you told her only you are mama, she is not, and that this break is because a boundary was broken and you won’t tolerate that. Even better would be if you husband would tell his mother that’s how you feel, as dealing with his parents should be his responsibility.