Me ‘18F’and my boyfriend ‘18M’ have been together for a little over a month. For most of our relationship he has been saying over and over to block a guy l used to have something with.
Before me and my boyfriend dated I told him I wasn’t going to unadd this guy ‘19M’. I said we were good friends, he was aware of our history and he still continued into the relationship.
Me and that guy (19M) never dated. We went out a fair few times, we do have history together, but mainly were just friends for a year. Developed a really good friendship and tried for a relationship but it just wasn’t right. When I broke it off with him and said I think we are better off friends, i promised him I would never cut contact with him. We mostly send one snap to eachother a day. Or if something happens (like he told me about the promotion he got at work that he was working so hard for the whole time I knew him). but nothing as far as that. We rarely talk. I obviously distanced myself from him.
I’m in a relationship and he respects that. We literally Just sent a Snapchat or so a day.
I have never hid my phone from my boyfriend, never given him a reason to not trust me. I have never asked to look through his. Never asked him to unadd girls. When we started dating he unadded every guy on my Snapchat. Which I didn’t care about. But don’t know. Is this fair? Or is it toxic?
TL;DR. Boyfriend asking me to unadd a guy I used to go out with. I made it clear from the start of the relationship I wasn’t going to do that. A month in and he’s already asking me too
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Trust is the foundation of any good relationship. If he can’t trust you after you’ve been honest from the start, then that’s his insecurity, not your responsibility to fix. You’re not doing anything wrong. It’s not toxic to have a friend. But it is toxic to demand control over who your partner can and can’t talk to, especially when they’ve been upfront and loyal the whole time. Today it’s friends, tomorrow it’s what you wear, the day after…