Straight to the point, me and this guy have been friends for a long time and I’ve been thinking about him every night since. I’m a really shy and to-myself girl so Ill consider myself lucky I found a guy I actually can talk to normally. Long story short- I ended up kissing him on his cheek while I was getting ready to leave. Yea…not a great idea. I don’t know why I did it, but I did and now I can’t get myself to talk to him because I’m to embarrassed and I’m afraid what he’ll think of me. I’m really mad at myself because I really enjoyed talking to him(and looking at his face not to be weird)
I kissed my crush and now i can’t talk to him
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Sounds to me like you did what you felt was natural, and my guess is that he probably feels very good about it.
I don’t know any guy who doesn’t like to have that kind of attention from a girl. If you think about it, it’s kind of the ultimate compliment.
Have you guys talked since you kissed him on the cheek?
Awful move, but now you have to own it or lose him. Say something before the silence says more than you meant to.
A cheek kiss is cute. He is not going to be bothered at all. But if you want to know how he feels, you are going to have to ask if in some way. You can text him “I guess I kind of like you. Did I go too far?”
He’s a guy. If he says a kiss on the cheek from a girl was too much, he will look like a total wimp. Therefore, he will either be neutral or positive. But he will not be negative.
You did nothing wrong, but your reaction to it might “make it wrong” if you are not careful.
If you stop talking to him because you are embarrassed you will no longer have your friend, which is the exact outcome of you expressing your feelings to him and him running/hiding.
So you are already on the road to the bad outcome. Why not let him know you weren’t thinking when you kissed his cheek, but that it wasn’t just a peck. And if he has any interest in exploring more you are open to it.
This way you have two good options (he digs you, and wants to try, or he isn’t, but still wants to be friends) that are as possible – and I would argue more likely – as him shutting you out/you shutting yourself out preemptively.
I am literally married and have a 16 year old daughter because my friend (now wife) put her lips up for a real kiss when we said goodbye instead of a cheek.