This is something that is being discussed between my boyfriend and I and of course therapy would be a good route but that’s expensive so I’m just chiming in on this app to see what you all think because surprisingly enough Reddit has helped me a fair amount.
My boyfriend and I want to move in, more so I would move in with him. We have discussed briefly rent and we mentioned that I would pay $500 a month for everything because I am currently a student and I’m lucky if I can make 300 a week. He told me he would let me know by July and I had to check in with him on July 5 to see what was going on. He then said $800 a month for everything and while that is only $300 more a month for me that is extremely significant. he said it’s because he’s broke and has no money and can’t afford where he lives but the thing is is that I’m having a hard time trying to sympathize with that because me moving in would help him financially, even if it was only an extra $500 or maybe just $200 with utilities taken out a month. Am I in the wrong for being frustrated and thinking that this is not financially fair for me considering how much I make currently? Of course I’m gonna be having to get some student loans out even moving out and paying $500 a month. I will need to get loans but I wanna keep them down as much as possible.
We’ve talked about marriage and everything and I’m only in school for a couple more years and realistically will be making a lot more money than him once I get my job. Any feedback would be nice.
(35F) (33M) TL;DR is it financially fair for my boyfriend to charge me $800 a month for rent when I’m lucky to make that in a month?
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I’m not sure why you want to be with a guy who openly admits he’s set himself up in a living situation he can’t afford and expects you to shoulder the burden from that with him.
Going into financial challenge for a partner is not a good idea. That being said I have no idea from this what your situation looks like otherwise. If you’d be paying 1000 to live alone… this is better. If you’d be living more affordably, absolutely don’t put yourself into debt for this guy! We have no idea what the financials of the area you’re living in are. You have to decide what keeps you financially healthy. To me it sounds like this guy isn’t it.