This seems to be true of most concepts like this. The least cool people are the ones that talk about how cool they (and often their family and/or SO) are.
Don’t be so negative snakeravencat, Reddit is too full of negative waves already. Be optimistic. Here, I’ll start us off: The most important human attribute is being honest, candid, and sincere. Once you learn how to fake all that the world is your oyster. Don’t care for shellfish? Perhaps the world can be your bacon cheeseburger. As for me, the world is my wheat bread sandwich where I put butter on one slice and Grandma’s Molasses on the other slice. YUM.
Yeah that’s true for most things people who keep telling you their Christians are not Christians, they’re basically trying to convince themselves not you.
When They have broken your trust 2-3 times. People make mistakes and can learn from them. But if they keep making the same mistake, or fail to recognize any error in the first place then you probably shouldn’t trust them with anything major.
However, reliability and trustworthiness are different things. Being reliable and being trustworthy usually have pretty good overlap for applicable cases. But being unreliable is different than being untrustworthy. Is this person failing to uphold their promises because they made an error, or are they failing to uphold their promises because they’re being deceitful?
The main difference between these two cases are what they do next how you might react. If they’re being deceitful then they will most likely continue being deceitful and you can conclude that they are untrustworthy. However this begs the question, how can you tell if they’re being deceitful or not?
If they acknowledge their error, take responsibility for it and apologize, then you could consider giving them another chance to redeem themselves. At this point you should pay attention to how they learned from the mistakes they made and if they make a meaningful effort to change. If they actually try to improve and seek forgiveness then they are more likely unreliable rather than deceitful. This doesn’t make them trustworthy yet, and you should expect them to provide consistent results before considering them reliable as well. However, this might help you distinguish dishonesty from simply human error.
Remember Hanlon’s razor: “Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by incompetence or stupidity”
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This seems to be true of most concepts like this. The least cool people are the ones that talk about how cool they (and often their family and/or SO) are.
Don’t be so negative snakeravencat, Reddit is too full of negative waves already. Be optimistic. Here, I’ll start us off: The most important human attribute is being honest, candid, and sincere. Once you learn how to fake all that the world is your oyster. Don’t care for shellfish? Perhaps the world can be your bacon cheeseburger. As for me, the world is my wheat bread sandwich where I put butter on one slice and Grandma’s Molasses on the other slice. YUM.
Yeah that’s true for most things people who keep telling you their Christians are not Christians, they’re basically trying to convince themselves not you.
And people who call you friend aren’t friendly.
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It’s even more true if someone tells you not to trust them. Especially if they’re drunk.
When They have broken your trust 2-3 times. People make mistakes and can learn from them. But if they keep making the same mistake, or fail to recognize any error in the first place then you probably shouldn’t trust them with anything major.
However, reliability and trustworthiness are different things. Being reliable and being trustworthy usually have pretty good overlap for applicable cases. But being unreliable is different than being untrustworthy. Is this person failing to uphold their promises because they made an error, or are they failing to uphold their promises because they’re being deceitful?
The main difference between these two cases are what they do next how you might react. If they’re being deceitful then they will most likely continue being deceitful and you can conclude that they are untrustworthy. However this begs the question, how can you tell if they’re being deceitful or not?
If they acknowledge their error, take responsibility for it and apologize, then you could consider giving them another chance to redeem themselves. At this point you should pay attention to how they learned from the mistakes they made and if they make a meaningful effort to change. If they actually try to improve and seek forgiveness then they are more likely unreliable rather than deceitful. This doesn’t make them trustworthy yet, and you should expect them to provide consistent results before considering them reliable as well. However, this might help you distinguish dishonesty from simply human error.
Remember Hanlon’s razor: “Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by incompetence or stupidity”
Unfortunately that logic just means when someone honestly says you can trust them, you don’t believe it. So you’ll not trust anyone
If you’re a thing (trustworthy, cool, etc.) you generally don’t need to tell people that you’re that thing, as they’ll just know it.
The surest sign must be when they tell you NOT to trust them surely
Really, it’s when they tell you they’ve got years of experience and obviously know less than you
I tell people not to trust me (I can’t keep a secret for shit) and yet they act all surprised when I do some shit they trusted me not to. Rediculous
This is what I think every time I see someone wearing their religion on their sleeve.
I have learned that one too many times. Now I just trust no one
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if you have to say “trust me” instead of just showing it, i’m already side-eyeing you real trust doesn’t need a disclaimer.
This is hilariously untrue and the comments even more so.
Actions always speak so much louder than words. Most trustworthy people know this.
??? People cannot be this dense. Most social redditor ever
I am sorry.
Please trust me that I feel very sorry for you that you feel that way.
No. Really…
Hope you get better…