Tl;DR Is it worth it? He says he loves me but…

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Tl;DR Whenever he “slightly” helps me or helps me halfway financially, eventually, he throws it in my face. It never fails. Meanwhile, he helps so many other people and never throws it in their face. I’m mot sure he is the type of man I want to ever marry or have children with. He knows I am struggling financially and we have been together for six years now. I am working but not FT.

However, I do manage here and there to obtain FT hours in my line of work, but it isn’t consistent on a monthly or weekly basis. He is almost in his 50’s and I am in my mid 30’s. I am Female and he is Male.

Comments

  1. TenaciousE_518 Avatar

    Only you can determine whether it’s worth it to stay with him, but based on what you’ve written here, I would leave. Throwing his help in your face isn’t ok, it’s manipulative.

  2. JustAsICanBeSoCruel Avatar

    I think at six years, you are pretty much getting a picture of what life is like with him.

    If you aren’t happy with it and don’t think it would be a good idea to bring kids into it, then it’s time to move on. You’ve spent enough time and energy on this. He is showing you exactly who he is to you.

    I personally wouldn’t be with someone that gives help only to throw it back in your face.