Men, how did you fundamentally shift yourself and improve your overall quality of life? Books, medicine, meditation, school…what was it?
Men, how did you fundamentally shift yourself and improve your overall quality of life? Books, medicine, meditation, school…what was it?
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Honestly, caring less about stuff that doesn’t matter! Focusing on working out or reading or whatever is great, but the best improvements came from what I didn’t do.
I let the people who care about me in, and I made time for myself and my own hobbies.
Getting an adequate amount of sleep every night
Seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist for my mental health issues; prioritizing a consistent sleep schedule (and getting enough sleep); Zen meditation; the practice of radical acceptance; and living my life according to my own values, rather than trying to fulfill others’ expectations, or even society’s.
I’ve still got a lot of issues going on, but all of this stuff has been really important for me, and will continue to be for the rest of my life.
Do please note the enormous difference between radical acceptance (accepting the way things are) and just giving up on things. You can accept that your issues exist, injustice, etc and fight against those things at the same time. Acceptance is about not wasting energy from battling possible outcomes, or outcomes you don’t control, on an emotional level; it’s not about refusing to fight for things that matter.
Reading and working out.
Getting LASIK surgery, buying an expensive good quality mattress and focusing on improving sleep quality (still struggling).
Started walking daily, intermittent fasting, closed 2 out of 3 of my businesses so that my life is much simpler.
Nobody is thinking about me as much as I think they are thinking about me.
Start doing what you want and focusing on you. Everyone else is focusing on themselves.
Stopped drinking almost entirely, saw a nutritionist, built a gym in my garage and started using it almost every morning, deleted Facebook and Instagram apps from my phone.
Retiring. š
Realize that it’ll be fine, or it won’t. Either way you best fight forward and handle it best you can.
I got a bidet attachment on Amazon for like $35.
I stopped trying to climb the corporate ladder. Started my own business and simplified my life. I also quit drinking alcohol.
Quiting drinking.
Alcohol was really the cause of, but never a solution to all of my problems.
Gym, diet, and having an incredible partner
Honestly, after getting on meds for anxiety. I used to dwell on stuff for months and sometimes years. That all stopped after therapy and medication. Not the most popular choice but I’m glad I found what works for me.
Investing and running
I moved to a completely different state with better minimum wage, state health insurance, and cheaper bills. I hoped on a Greyhound bus back in 2017 from Missouri to New York and I actually have been in better health physically, emotionally, and financially.
Quality mattress & shoes make a huge difference on your joints & muscles
Cycling.
It keeps you fit, satisfies exploration/curiosity. And it’s really hard to be sad on a bike when you’re moving fast
Getting the mental and emotional tools I needed to handle anything in life – talking to mates on a deep level, therapy, introspection, mindfulness.
I’m so so so thankful I did that.
Seeing a therapist and running outdoors.
Getting sick and realizing my lifestyle played a significant piece in that outcome. After that I focused heavily on eating right, exercising, finding spirituality, and cutting out a lot of nonsense that didn’t bring value.
Best way to make the shift is find a meaningful goal that really gets you motivated and then go all in. You’ll see the things that aren’t important just falling off naturally.