We have been in a relationship since the start of the year, and we have had a really amazing time. Its the healthiest relationship ive ever been in and im happy. Theres one issue that has been bugging me lately though. I want to start by saying we earn a lot different, im on part time and minimum wage and he works 40+ hours a week with a higher salary.
Okay so, we like to go out on a lot of dates and he likes to visit different places often, which id be up for if i didn’t have a very tight budget. I pay bills where i am living and he lives rent free at home. He has a lot of disposable income which makes it easy to understand why he likes to go out to a lot of places like restaurants, bars, different cities etc. ive told him a few times that i need to slow down on these outings because i dont have a lot of money, to which he agreed but then slipped back into it.
On these outings, he will sometimes pay for me. I mean SOMETIMES. he will get me a lemonade from the bar when hes getting himself something, he will sometimes buy me food from a store but he will end up eating most of it anyways. I want to say that too, when we are out in a restaurant he will end up eating most of my food as i dont have a big appetite, and i will end up paying half the bill ( even if i get one meal with water and he gets a meal with sides and drinks). I pay for his food quite often also, its just how i was raised. So its hard to not be met with the same treatment.
Im not sure if im being entitled here, i just dont think its fair. I feel like i should be treated better, he took me on a few dates he planned and paid for in our dating stage to impress me, but now it feels like im the one pulling my wallet out despite not having as much income as he does.
Everything else in our relationship is good, its just this thats been putting me off lately.
Tldr; my bf makes a lot more money than i do, and he plans lots of trips and dates that i end up paying most the bill for.
Any input is appreciated, thanks guys.
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What do you want to hear? He is seven years older than you, still living at home while earning more than you and yet he is using you.
Have you talked to him about it?
But nonetheless- if I were you, I’d reconsider the relationship.
yeah this isnt good. he is free loading off of you and he is the one who actually has the means to do all of these things. you dont! it might be time to tell him you just cant afford it anymore and see if he says he will pay.
Welcome to the life of the average man, now you know how we feel when dealing with women
I’m assuming you haven’t mentioned this yet to him, are you struggling to come up with what to say?